As many of you know I am a stay at home mommy. I love it and I am blessed to be one, but what you did not know is that I used to be a working mommy before I had my twins. I know how it feels like to leave your child with a care taker and how that guilty feeling never goes away. I managed pretty well even though I was going to school and working at the same time.I have some cool tips for all my working mommies on how not to regret being a working mommy and how to make up for the time you didn’t spend with your precious child.
Here are my tips mommies…( Hope this help and by no means am I an expert but this helped me a lot..)
Do not feel guilty.
I know is hard not to, but you are working for them. Feeling guilty every time you leave those faces at home, school, childcare will get easier but it won’t go away. So do not dwell on it and just feel proud and happy that you are working to provide your child with a better future.
2. Have mommy and child time.
A fun way to compensate for all of those missed milestone or just time in general with your child is to have a whole day or half a day with your child. The tip here is to spend time with your child, to bond in a way that only a mother and her child would. I for instance used to take Jamely to chuck E cheese with my hubby. Since that was Jamely favorite place on earth then we pleased her by going and we definitely bonded as a family. Take your child to his/hers favorite restaurant, park, museum any where that you know you will be bonding and creating new and fun memories for both of you. Time is key here, have time for you child, make time for your child and give him/her your individual attention. That’s all they want trust me, is not that hard and you know what? They will appreciate you for doing this. kudos to you!
3. Homework time.
Whether your child is in pre-k or high school, helping your child to do homework is another great way for you not to feel guilty and bond with them. Set a time everyday for homework that way your child would look forward to it and actually be excited to do home work. During Home work time your child will feel at ease that you are helping them with something, they will feel special and best of all home work will be done. When I was a working mommy Jamely was not in school yet, but when she went to pre-k last year we used to do home work together along with her daddy and it really was a precious time. I loved it, you will love it and time is definitely not wasted.
4. Dinner nights.
Mommies choose at least one day out of your hectic working schedule to prepare and cook your child’s favorite home-made dish. I know that when you are a working mommy it is hard to have home-made meal at the table, but please try to. Probably in most cases the person taking care of your child will do this for them or if your child is in middle school or high school they will just microwave a frozen dinner. So making that home-made dinner for them will be extra special. You can even order pizza and have a pizza night, how fun will that be. The point is to bond and for you and your family to spend time together. Make those nights special, sit together at the dinner table or just sit in the living room watching a movie just make it memorable for you and your kids. I love this tip because is your day with the family to just talk, play and eat together sharing old and new memories. This will compensate for sure on those missed times without your child.
This one is an obvious one but nonetheless another important one. Taking a vacation is the ultimate bonding experience you will have with your child. The fact that is in a different state, country or house is great because you are not on a routine. When you are in a family vacation, you play, hang out, eat, and just relax TOGETHER right? or am I the weird one here that does that. Just know that vacation means exactly that VACATION, do not be on your phone, or laptops checking work emails unless of course is very important. Our children need to know we are here for them no matter what, whether we work or we are stay at home mommies.
***If you have any other tips for working mommies please let us know on the comments!