Happy Relationship Friday’s!
My relationship has definitely changed since having kids. Is one of those things that is inevitable and you have to deal with it someway some how. We were young when we had our first child which is Jamely and she is 5 years old now. I was 20 years old when I found out I was pregnant and Javier(hubby) was 21 , yep very young. Here is how our relationship was before our children.
- We didn’t have a care in the world.
- We used to go out a lot.
- We did not live together.
- We didn’t have to worry about the bills.
- We hardly fought.
- We were a happy couple.
- We would argue a lot.
- We were not happy.
- We had bills to pay.
- Lack of sleep.
- Stress took over me.
- We did not see eye to eye.
- We live together.
Now this is more or so what we dealt with after Jamely was born and some of the things are true after the twins were born as well. I will be honest when Jamely was born we had to learn how to live together and be a family, We truly loved being parents no doubt about that but our relationship was not the same.
We had great support from our families so we are very grateful for that. What I can tell you now is that back then as a couple we were not ready. We would fight for any single thing,we just couldn’t see eye to eye. Also I believe I matured as soon as I found out I was pregnant and Javier took a while to do so.
It took time to get back to where we were or close to where we were.
Children do change your relationship with your spouse or boyfriend either for the better or for the worst. I honestly can say that when Jamely was born we were not sure if we would stay together, we had to figure it out at a young age. It was not Jamely’s fault at all it was us and our issues as a couple that made it even that more stressful and hard to deal with.
How we are now:
After the birth of our twins we were obviously more mature and our relationship was better. We definitely fought a lot but I think is all my hormones and the ability that he has of not having patience. We have three beautiful children that we are in love with and adore with all of our hearts. We learned a lot from being young with our first child to being young adults with our three kids. I am not going to lie we do argue like any other couple does, because let’s face it we are humans. We sometimes can’t stand each other, and he gets on my last nerve, but we do love each other and we were willing to fight for our relationship and our family.
Has my relationship changed after having kids, yes it has and it still will. We learn each day and I can say Javier and I are some very lucky parents! We took the negatives and turned it into positives. We are more mature, we are stronger now than we were before as a couple, and we have a new kind of love that is deeper and more meaningful after we had our children. They put a smile in our faces everyday.
Have your relationship changed after having kids? how so, how is your relationship now? How was it before?
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