Happy Friday!
As mother’s we tend to put our needs last, we tend to not wear makeup, we tend to walk around in our pajamas or sometimes we do not to care about our physical appearance. Once we are mother’s we fall into the stereotypical “mom look”, which is basically looking torn down and not physically beautiful. Is not that we are not beautiful after having kids, is just that we tend to believe and feed into the stereotypes that we actually live it.
Remember how we were before we had children? Didn’t you feel good about yourself, didn’t you feel confident and sexy.  Before having children we were on top of the world, our world that is. We would go out whenever we wanted to, we would eat whenever we wanted to, and let’s not forget sleep. Oh how I took you for granted.
I am pretty sure that you would wear makeup, dress nice and had this confidence in you that made you feel in control. So why is it that after having children, we feel that we must stop doing this? Is it the lack of sleep? the endless crying and whining, is it the chores and responsibility of taking care of a child? I honestly think we should get rid of the stereotypes. Let’s show the world that even if we are mothers, we can look and feel confident.
That we are beautiful and in control of our lives and our kids lives too! Why not? is not like there is a manual that says ” once you are a mother you are going to slack off in the way you look and feel about yourself”. How about we start now! I am sharing great tips on how to feel and look confident after having children. I hope this can help boost your confidence and start being your sexy you!
1.Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful: If you want to be more confident, you need to start from the root which is you. If you don’t tell yourself that you are beautiful than who will? You need to know that you look great and you need to believe it. You need to love the new you.
2.Wear some makeup: A little makeup does not hurt anybody. Wear makeup even if you are not going out of the house, it will make you feel beautiful.
3. Do your hair: Doing your hair will help you look less lazy and more put together, if you know what I mean. If you do not do your hair and you walk around the house and you happen to look at yourself in the mirror, you will feel less attractive and because of that, you will feel bad about yourself.
4. Go get a manicure and a pedicure: Have a spa day and go out with your sisters or friends to get your feet and hands looking good! I am telling you this will boost your happiness and you will feel great about yourself. I always feel good when I look down at my nails and see that they are done!
5. Wear your favorite outfit: If you are going out with your hubby or your family why not wear an outfit that makes you look and feel beautiful and sexy. Go for it! it will boost up your confidence and it will shine through.
6. Smile: Sometimes a smile can make a big difference in your day. When you smile you automatically feel better and you will go on with your day with a more positive attitude.
7. Embrace your scars from giving birth: This one is a must, embrace your scars because it is just a reminder that you are strong and you are a mother. A birth scar is a symbol of love, new life, motherhood and family. Embrace it because you are the only one that thinks is not beautiful.
8. Walk like you own it: Let’s show these models that they got nothing on us! Walk with confidence and not with defeat! People can see right through your walk. Stand up right, put your face on and conquer the world. Your baby’s stroller is your best asset, so let people know that you know that you look good even after having a baby. Push that stroller like you own it and believe me you will love it!
9. Do not slack off: Sometimes you will have those days, where you do not want to put on makeup, where you do not want to wear sexy lingerie or clothes. That is okay, but do not make it a habit because that’s where the problem starts. Do not slack off, you can have off days ofcourse, but not permanent days.
10. Fake it until you make it: We have all heard this phrase before and let me tell you, you should live by it! Fake feeling beautiful, fake a smile, fake being confident in your mommy role, as long as in the end you are not faking it anymore.
I hope this helped in learning new tricks in feeling and looking more confident.
**Do you have more tips to add? Please feel free to comment!**
Remember we are all unique and that is what makes us beautiful!
Have a great day and I will see you next time.
*Spanish*
Feliz Viernes!
Como madres tendemos a poner nuestras necesidades de ultimo, tendemos a no usar maquillaje, tendemos a caminar en pajama todo el dia o en ocasiones no nos preocupamos de nuestra apariencia fÃsica. Una vez que somos madre caemos en el estereotipo de “como se ve una mamá”, que básicamente es con cara derrotada y no fÃsicamente hermosa. No es que no somos hermosa después de tener hijos, es sólo que tendemos a creer y alimentar de los estereotipos que realmente vivimos en eso.
Recuerda cómo eras antes de que tuviéras hijos? ¿ te sientes bien contigo mismo, se siente confiada y sexy. Antes de tener hijos te creia estar en la cima del mundo, tu mundo. Podias salir cuando querias, comias cada vez que querias, y no nos olvidemos de durmir. ¡Oh, cómo no te aprecie.
Estoy bastante segura de que te ponias maquillaje, te vestias bien y tenÃa esa confianza en ti que te hace sentir en control. Asà que ¿por qué es que después de tener hijos, sentimos que tenemos que dejar de hacer esto? ¿Es la falta de sueño? sera los llantos interminable y quejándose, sera las tareas y la responsabilidad de cuidar de un niño? Sinceramente, creo que deberÃamos deshacernos de los estereotipos de una vez. Vamos a mostrar al mundo que incluso si somos madres, podemos ver y sentirnos con confianza.
Que somos hermosas y estamos en control de nuestras vidas y de las de nuestros hijos también! Por qué no? No es como si hubiera un manual que dice “una vez que usted es una madre, se va a aflojar en la forma de ver y sentir acerca de ti mismo”. ¿Qué tal si empiezamos ahora! Estoy compartiendo grandes consejos sobre la manera de verse y sentirse con confiaza después de tener hijos. Espero que esto puede ayudar a aumentar su confianza y empezar a ser la persona sexy que eres!
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1.Mirese en el espejo y decir a ti misma que eres hermosa: Si desea tener más confianza, tiene que empezar desde la raÃz que es usted. Si no dices a ti misma que eres bella quién lo hará? Usted necesita saber que te ves muy bien y hay que creerlo. Tienes que amar a la nueva persona que eres.
2. Pongase algo de maquillaje: Un poco de maquillaje no le hace daño a nadie. Usar maquillaje, incluso si no va a salir de la casa, que le hará sentirse bella y segura.
3. Peinese su cabello: Hacerse el cabello le ayudará a parecer menos perezosa y más elaborada, si sabes lo que quiero decir. Si usted no se hace su cabello y camina alrededor de la casa y pasas a mirarte en el espejo, te sentirás menos atractiva y por eso, te sentirá mal contigo misma.
4. Vaya obtener manicura y pedicura: Tenga un dÃa de spa y salir con sus hermanas o amigas para arreglarse sus pies y manos! Yo te estoy diciendo esto aumentará tu felicidad y te sentirás bien contigo misma. Siempre me siento bien cuando miro hacia abajo a mis uñas y veo que estan hechas!
5. Use su ropa favorita: Si vas a salir con tu marido o la familia por qué no usar una ropa que te hace ver y sentir hermosa y sexy. Teaumentará tu confianza y va a brillar a través.
6. Tenga una Sonrisa: A veces una sonrisa puede hacer una gran diferencia en tu dÃa. Cuando sonrÃes te sientes mejor y automáticamente va a seguir con tu dÃa con una actitud más positiva.
7. Abrazar sus cicatrices de parto: Éste es un deber, abrazar sus cicatrices del parto, ya que es sólo un recordatorio de que eres fuerte y usted es una madre. Una cicatriz de parto es un sÃmbolo de amor, vida nueva, la maternidad y la familia. quieralo porque usted es la única que piensa que no es bello.
8. Camine como que usted es la jefa: Mostremos a estas modelos que no tienen nada con nosotras! Camine con confianza, no con derrota! La gente puede ver a través de su caminata. Párese derecha, poner tu cara en alto y conquistar el mundo. Cochecito de su bebé es tu mejor acesorio, por lo que la gente sepa que usted sabe que se ve bien, incluso después de tener un bebé. Empuje el cochecito como que usted lo posee y créanme que les encantará!
9. No se afloje: A veces usted tendrá esos dÃas, en los que no desea ponerse maquillaje, en el que no quiere usar la ropa interior sexy . Eso está bien, pero no lo haga un hábito porque ahà es donde empieza el problema. No aflojar, usted puede tener dÃas libres por supuesto, pero no dÃas permanentes.
10. Finge hasta que lo hagas: Todos hemos escuchado esta frase antes y déjame decirte que tienes que segurila! fingir una sonrisa,fingir tener confianza como mamá, siempre y cuando al final no estás fingiendo más.
**¿Tienes más consejos para agregar? Por favor, siéntase libre de comentar!**
Espero que esto ayudó a aprender nuevos trucos en sentirse y verse con más confianza.
Recuerde que todas somos únicas y eso es lo que nos hace ser hermosas!
Que tengas un bonito dÃa y te veré la próxima vez.
I love these tips. I’m trying to get in the habit of putting on makeup, even if I’m not going anywhere. It does help! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Danielle recently posted…All the Times my Husband Just Doesn’t Get It
Thank you Danielle! putting makeup on does help and I love it! Thanks for reading.
This is such a wonderful post. It’s so true! As moms, it’s easy to get tired and begin to slack on doing things for ourselves. Not today! This mommy is about to pull out all the stops! lol Thanks for sharing 😉
The Little Tourist recently posted…10 Minute S’Mores Recipe for Kids
Great advice!!! I am definitely guilty of slacking off, not wearing make up or doing my hair, and living in my yoga pants. I do feel way too “mumsy” and need to put a bit of effort in.
Bethaney – Flashpacker Family recently posted…Top 10 Things to Do in Nashville with Kids
Thank you!! lol yes that’s the spirit let’s do this!
Thank you Bethaney! all we need is a little effort and inspiration!
I love that you said embrace your scars from childbirth. I had an emergency c-section at 29 weeks with our first and it’s a pretty gnarly scar (in my opinion), but I’m proud of it. It’s like, oh yeah, that’s where they took a PERSON OUT OF ME. 😀 I’m so glad to see a post like this. Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves!
Brooke recently posted…The New IN- Crowd: JESSICA
Thank you so much Brooke! I also have a c-section scar from giving birth to my twins and I am proud of it too. It is never going away so why not embrace it? Also like you said..it’s a reminder that a human being came out of there 🙂
Wonderful tips! As mothers, we often forget these things. I always feel better when I put on some nice clothes and get my nails done. Thanks so much for sharing.
JcCee recently posted…5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself
Thank you!!I feel the same way, everytime I have my nails done and put on nice clothes I automatically feel good about myself.
Thank you for these tips! I own tons and tons of makeup but while I was pregnant with our 4th child I stopped putting it on because it agitated my skins due to the hormones. I have yet to get in a steady routine of putting it back on and he is 15 old now. I will try your other tips I think they will help!
Kristen
http://mustachesandprincessmom.blogspot.com
Kristen recently posted…Worst Day of My Life
Thank you Kristen! I think you will do fine just start applying a simple makeup and get into a routine! Also I hope my other tips can help as well 🙂
Hi…you have a lovely blog here ánd I love reading your tips on mom….how to make us feel good and great!!
Reanaclaire recently posted…Red Lobster, Howe Avenue, Sacramento
Hi,
Really nicely written . I can relate myself wit 9th point (Do not slack off). I’ll definitely try to adopt all these points in my life.
Hope for more such writings.
Thanks.
Devya Agarwal recently posted…Can we eat banana during pregnancy periods weight loss
Thank you Devya! Yeah, I think slacking off is something that as mothers we do a lot because we put others first. But we need to stop slacking off and do things that makes us feel beautiful and confident about ourselves 🙂