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11 reasons moms shouldn’t judge other mom’s way of parenting

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Before I became a mom, I didn’t know “mommy wars” existed. I never thought I was going to be part of a community and tribe of women who judge and offend one another because of the way we choose to parent our children. Now, let’s be honest here, we all judge even me, but what I don’t get is the fact that some moms think it’s their right to tell other moms that the way  they are raising their children is not the “right” way. There is no perfect way to be a mom, there’s no manual where it teaches you every single step to achieve the perfect parenting style. Being a mom is all about learning everyday and figuring out what works for you and your family. Not doing things that works for others.

I have experienced offensive comments and hate comments for this blog post that I excitedly shared to the world. Never would I have thought, that I was going to get so many negative comments because of the way I chose to do things as a mom. It’s not fair for us to try every single day to be the best moms that we can be and then have another mom who I am convinced goes through similar experiences, offend us. Pretend that they have perfect kids, that their lives are always happy, that their kids don’t throw tantrums or that they eat their vegetables without a fuss. Let me just say that unless your child can poop gold  you have no right in telling me how to be a mom and assuming I’m doing it wrong.

Moms need to understand that we do not like others telling us how to be a mom, it’s just the way it is. Heck! I don’t even like when my own mother tells me how to raise my kids, let alone a total stranger. It’s not happening and those moms who think it’s their priority to shame on others just because their way of parenting is not the same as theirs, should really evaluate themselves. You know why? Because those moms would be equally annoyed and hurt if they are told that their way of parenting is not the “right” way. No mom likes to be told that they are not good moms, so why do some of us do it?

I stand for the “mommy wars” to end and to support each other and the way that we choose to parent our children. Stop the offensive remarks, the hurtful comments and whispers. We can hear you, we can see your face expression and we can feel your negative, judging vibe. Parenting styles differ from country to country, from state to state, from family to family, from religion to religion. So what makes “those” moms think that there’s only one way to parent and that it’s their way! I laugh because everyone is different and I am pretty sure that the way you parent your kids is not the same way that your mom parented you, is it? Nope! It’s never going to be the same, maybe there are similarities but never the same style or way.

Remember mamas, that only you know how to raise your kids, only you know how to discipline your kids, only you know how much you love your kids and only you know what’s right for you and your family. That being said, let’s take a look at how even though we all have different parenting styles, we still experience similar things. So just sit back and enjoy the fact that we are all the same in so many ways. We are a tribe, we are doing the same thing here and that is trying our best every day to be the best mom that we can be for our kids, we would kill for them, we live for them, we work hard for them, we have goals to achieve because of them, we are moms and we are the same!

11 reasons why moms shouldn’t judge other mom’s way of parenting

 

Coffee and wine

Okay, so if you are a mom and are not addicted to coffee or wine, how in the world are you living? I’m serious, every mother that I know is a coffee addict and I am not the exception of the rule. Give me my iced latte and I’m your girl! I feel like I can conquer the world and my kids. It’s a given that us moms need caffeine to reboot our energy and go on with our days as smoothly as possible. For some reason, the whining and crying from my kids becomes less stressful and more manageable. I am a coffee lover but I also know that some moms love to have a glass of wine at the end of their day or during mid day, whatever floats your boat. I’m not judging! Addicted to coffee or wine? I got news, you are a mom and we can definitely bond over it.

We are clueless

When we become moms for the first time, we are completely clueless. All those books, blogs, apps we read to prepare us for our baby goes out the window. We do not know what the heck we are doing! We ask our moms so many questions about how to be a mom that they will want to write a book and then give it to us to read. That will still not help, we will still be clueless. Why? Because it takes time to get the hang of things, it takes time for us to know what to do, for us to know our baby’s needs, for us to know our own parenting style. No matter how different we are in parenting our kids, there is something that we all can’t run away from and that is the first few days of being a new mom. Clueless, scared, nervous, happy, and blessed are some of the feelings that we feel, yes all of us! Oh, and when our second baby comes, it’s a whole different story to tell.

Our kids annoy us

The crying for no reason, the whining because they want a toy, the fighting between siblings. Boy, if that is not annoying, I don’t know what is. We all experience this, don’t we moms? Just admit it, your kids annoy you, just as much as my kids annoy me. Kids can be difficult to handle and they sometimes don’t like to cooperate with us. It’s in their DNA, no matter who their mom is, they are annoying. We hear, “mom, mom, mom” one hundred times a day, as if our names do not have an expiration date. Which it should so maybe our kids would think twice and choose carefully when to say “mom”. The truth of the matter is, that we love our children unconditionally but boy do they push our buttons sometimes.

We lose our shit

If you are going to say that you haven’t lost your shit , well either you are lying or you’re going to lose it in 5.4.3.2.1. This is what we do, we lose our shit because that’s what happens when we can’t take it anymore. We wait and wait and wait for our kids to calm down, for our kids to eat their food, for our kids to behave. We can take a lot of shit from our kids but they better watch out when we just about had enough. You know what happens? We lose it and then we scream and then our kids listen. How ironic is that when we are so nice, gentle and patiently speaking to them, they don’t listen. The moment we lose our cool, then they want to behave and do everything that we have been telling them to do for the past week. #motherhood #weloseourshit

Homework is torture

Since when has elementary level school homework been so difficult to understand and do. Specially the math homework, like what’s going on here? I’m good at math but the way the math problems are worded now a days is like if our kids are in college. I’m not joking, does this happen to you? Bottom line is that if you are a mom, homework time is torture time, it makes us scratch our heads and second guess our intelligence.

We have Dad envy

I am the first one to admit that I sometimes have dad envy. I envy my hubby because he sleeps like a newborn and has no interruptions what so ever. He can eat his food in one sitting, he can use the bathroom as long as he wants without having little ones knocking the door down. Yes, I envy my hubby at times and I know you do too. Admit it mom, I’m here for you if you ever need to talk crap about your hubby (please, we do it with our girlfriends and sisters), if you ever need to vent about how they manage to be the “cool” parent without having to clean vomit in the middle of the night or wake up every half hour because they think the kids are crying. Dad will always be the “cool” parent no matter what we do as moms and for that I envy them.

We cry

You don’t even know how many times I have cried because I think I can’t handle being a mom. I have cried because I’m tired, because I need help, because my kids do not want to eat their food and because sometimes I’ve just about had it. We all have cried at one point or another, we worry too much about being a good mother that sometimes it takes a toll on us. We have cried because we feel like we are not equipped to be a mother and the list can go on and on. We all have done it and will continue to cry because being a parent is one of the hardest jobs we will ever have to do and so we want to be close to perfection as possible. It’s okay to cry and we need each other to lean on and to support one another, not judge or make us feel worst about it.

We lie to our kids

We  tell our kids white lies here and there because let’s face it, sometimes we have to lie, otherwise they will not leave us alone. Kids like to beg and nag and if you don’t lie to them about buying the game they just saw a minute ago on T.V. the rest of your day will be ruined. So, yes we all do it and if you haven’t done it, you will. Trust me! We have lied about buying them a toy, about buying them a puppy, about anything really just to get them to do whatever it is that we want them to do. It’s sort of like a trade, we lie to them in hopes that they believe us and do what we have asked them to do. It works every single time.

We are walking zombies

We do not have a “normal” good night sleep from the moment that our kids are born. We have signed away our rights for sleeping the minute we walk into our house with our newborn baby. It’s over, FINITO! I guess we can all be zombie BBF’s and brag about still functioning even with 2 hours of sleep, take that daddies, haha! (I kid, I kid). No but for real, do you remember the last time you had a decent 8 hours of sleep? Neither do I, this is us right here and right now and for the rest of our lives. I should just introduce myself as  “Ros Emely the walking zombie”. So why all the judging and negativity surrounding a mom’s way of parenting, when in fact none of us get enough sleep to get us through the day. Your way of parenting is not the perfect way if you can’t seem to sleep a good 8 hours uninterrupted, is it?

Mama bear

We protect our children till the end and watch out if anyone hurts or mistreats them, because we will get all kinds of crazy. That is just our natural reaction as moms, we protect our kids and we show  it to them too. Our kids find comfort in us, they feel secure and protected and by all means we are going to keep it that way. When we hear about a child who was hurt by other people, we first cry, second we get angry and third we put ourselves in the mother’s shoes. We hurt with the mom and we hurt for the child. It’s in our veins and heart to be mama bears and we take it seriously.

We are learning

Each day that passes by, we learn something new.  We read blogs or magazines, we see and we hear about ways to be a happier stay at home mom, or ways we can de-stress, what to do when your kids throw a public tantrum and so on and so forth. We are eager to learn how to be great moms to our kids, that each day we are learning tricks and tips about motherhood. We all do it, we all have that in common. Being a parent is about accepting your flaws and implementing a few techniques to improve on them. You know something? Each day we learn from other moms and they learn from us too! It’s amazing, your mother can teach you something, your grandmother, friends, aunts, cousins, sisters and even strangers! Being open minded will help you learn new things about being a mother that you never knew before.

 

You see? We are moms, we go through pretty much the same things, we need each other to vent, to laugh, to talk crap about our kids, hubbies and let’s throw in our mothers in-law into the mix as well. We can’t be enemies, we can’t judge one another, we need to support each other. We need to be open minded and respectful in the different ways that we parent our children and raise them. As long as a mother is not mistreating or malnourishing a child and the child is happy just like yours, then just respect their way of parenting.

Bottom line is that we are all doing our best, just because you might do it differently doesn’t mean that the other mom’s way of doing it, is not a good way too. There is no right or wrong way of being a mom, there are different ways of being a mom, but we all have the same purpose. To love our kids unconditionally, to provide them with food, clothes, shelter, laughter,memories and most importantly a loving home.

What are more things that you can add to the list that all moms have in common?

 

*Spanish*

Tenga en cuenta: estoy excluyendo las madres que no toman el cuidado de sus hijos, que son abusivas, y que no tienen el derecho de ser llamadas madres. Yo entiendo que no todas las madres  juzgan a otras mamas, pero hay unas pocas que lo hacen. Por favor, no se ofenda y disfruten de algunas de las formas que somos todas similares. No juzguemos unos de otros, sino apoyar y respetar uno al otro!

 

Antes de ser madre, no sabía que las “guerras de mamás” existian. Nunca pensé que iba a ser parte de una comunidad y  tribu de mujeres que juzgan y ofenden entre sí debido a la forma que elegimos criar a nuestros hijos. Ahora, vamos a ser honestas aquí, todos juzgamos incluso yo, pero lo que no entiendo es el hecho de que algunas madres creen que es su derecho de decirle a otras madres que la forma en que crian no es la forma “correcta”. No hay manera perfecta de ser madre, no hay instrucciones en donde le enseña cada paso para lograr el estilo de crianza perfecto. Ser madre es aprender todos los días y averiguar lo que funciona para usted y su familia. No hacer cosas que funcionan para otros.

He experimentado comentarios ofensivos y comentarios de odio por esta entrada de blog que yo compartía con entusiasmo con el mundo. Nunca hubiera pensado que iba a conseguir tantos comentarios de odio debido a la forma que elegi hacer cosas como madre. No es justo que nosotras tratamos todos los días para ser las mejores madres que podemos ser y luego tener otra madre decirnos que lo estamos haciendo mal. Estoy convencida que todas tenemos experiencias similares y no debemos ofendernos. Esas madres que juzgan, pretende que tienen niños perfectos, que sus vidas son siempre feliz, que sus hijos no hacen berrinches o comen sus vegetales sin una queja. Permítanme decir que solo si su hijo puede hacer caca de oro, usted me puede juzgar y decirme cómo ser una mamá todo lo que quieras, pero en el ínterin se puede ocuparse de sus negocios mama.

Las mamás tienen que entender que no nos gusta que otros nos digan cómo ser mamá, es sólo la forma en que lo es. Ni siquiera me gusta cuando mi propia madre me dice cómo criar a mis hijos, por no hablar de un total desconocido. No está sucediendo y aquellas madres que piensan que es su prioridad es vergonzar a los demás sólo porque su manera de ser padres no es el misma que las de ellas, en realidad debería evaluarse a sí mismas. ¿Sabes por qué? porque esas madres estarían igualmente molesta y herida si otras madres van y les dicen que su forma de ser padres no es la forma “correcta”. Ninguna mamá le gusta que se les digan que no son buenas madres, así que ¿por qué algunas de nosotras lo hacemos?

Estoy a favor de terminar la “guerra de mamás” y para apoyarse unas a otras y la forma en que elegimos para criar a nuestros hijos. No juzguen mas porque oimos los comentarios y murmullos hirientes. Podemos escuchar, podemos ver su expresión de la cara y sentir su ambiente negativo. Estilos de crianza cambia de país a país, de  estado a estado, de familia a familia, de religión a religión. Entonces, ¿qué hace que “esas” madres piensen que sólo hay una forma de matriz y que es su manera! Me río porque todo el mundo es diferente y estoy bastante segura de que la forma en que ellas crian no es la misma manera en que sus madres la criaron, ¿verdad? ¡No! Nunca va a ser el mismo, tal vez hay similitudes, pero nunca es el mismo estilo o forma.

Recuerde mamas, que sólo usted sabe cómo criar a sus hijos, sólo usted sabe cómo disciplinar a sus hijos, sólo tú sabe lo mucho que amas a tus hijos y sólo usted sabe lo que es correcto para usted y su familia. Dicho esto, vamos a echar un vistazo a cómo a pesar de que todos tenemos diferentes estilos de crianza, todavía experimentamos cosas similares. Así que simplemente sentarse y disfrutar del hecho de que todas somos lo mismo de muchas maneras. Somos una tribu, que estamos haciendo lo mismo aquí y es haciendo todo lo posible cada día para ser la mejor madre que podemos ser para nuestros hijos, matamos por ellos, vivimos para ellos, trabajamos duro para ellos, tenemos objetivos a alcanzar a causa de ellos, somos madres y  somos iguales!

11 razones por las que las madres no deben juzgar el camino de otra madre de crianza

 

El café y el vino

Está bien, así que si usted es una madre, no es adicto al café o vino, cómo estás viviendo? Estoy hablando en serio, cada madre que conosco es una adicta al café y no soy la excepción de la regla. Dame mi café con leche helado y yo soy tu chica! Siento que puedo conquistar el mundo y a mis hijos tambien. Es un hecho que nosotras necesitamos cafeína para reiniciar nuestra energía y seguir con nuestros días de la mejor manera posible. Por alguna razón, el lloriqueo y llanto de mis hijos se vuelve menos estresante y más manejable. Soy un amante del café, pero también sé que algunas madres les encanta tener una copa de vino al final del día o de medio día, lo que flota su barco. No estoy juzgando! Adicto al café o vino? Tengo noticias, usted es una mamá y definitivamente podemos vínculo sobre eso.

 

Estamos despistadas

Cuando nos convertimos en madres por primera vez, estamos completamente sin idea. Todos esos libros, blogs, aplicaciones que leimos para prepararnos para nuestro bebé va por la ventana. No sabemos qué diablos estamos haciendo, le hacemos a nuestras madres tantas preguntas acerca de cómo ser una madre que van a querer escribir un libro y luego darnolos para leer. Y todavía no nos ayudará, todavía estamos despistadas. ¿Por qué? porque se necesita tiempo para conseguir un ritmo de las cosas, se necesita tiempo para nosotras saber qué hacer, para nosotros conocer las necesidades de nuestros bebés. No importa lo diferentes que somos en la crianza de nuestros hijos, es algo que todas no podemos huir de y que es de los primeros días de ser una nueva mamá. Desorientadas, asustadas, nerviosas, felices, y bendecidas son algunos de los sentimientos que sentimos, todas nosotros sí! Ah, y cuando llega nuestro segundo bebé, es otra historia que contar.

 

Nuestros hijos nos molestan

El llanto sin motivo, el lloriqueo porque quieren un juguete, los combates entre hermanos. Chica, si eso no es molestoso, no sé lo que es. Todos experimentamos esto como madres. Sólo admitirlo, sus hijos las molestan, tanto como mis hijos me molestan a mi. Los niños pueden ser difíciles de manejar y que a veces no desean cooperar con nosotras. Está en su ADN, no importa quiénes son sus madres, son molestosos. oímos, “mamá, mamá, mamá” cien veces al día, como si nuestros nombres no tuvieran una fecha de expiracion. La cual debe así tal vez nuestros hijos lo pensaría dos veces y elegan con cuidado al decir “mamá”. La verdad del asunto es, que amamos a nuestros hijos incondicionalmente pero ellos nos empujan nuestros botones a veces.

 

Perdemos nuestra mierda

Si usted va a decir que usted no ha perdido su mierda sin embargo, bien sea que usted está mintiendo o vas a perderla en 5.4.3.2.1. Esto es lo que hacemos, perdemos nuestra mierda porque eso es lo que sucede cuando no podemos aguantar más. Esperamos y esperamos y esperamos a que nuestros niños se calmen, que nuestros hijos se coman su alimento, que los niños se comporten. Podemos tomar un montón de mierda de nuestros niños, pero mejor que tenga cuidado cuando ya hemos tenido suficiente. Ya sabes lo que pasa? Perdemos y luego gritamos y luego nuestros hijos nos asen caso. Qué irónico es que cuando estamos tan agradable, suave y pacientemente hablando con ellos, ellos no  nos escuchan. En el momento en que perdemos la calma, entonces ellos quieren comportarse y hacer todo lo que les hemos estado diciendo que hagan durante la semana entera. #perdemosnuestracalma #maternidad

 

La tarea es tortura

Desde cuando ha sido la tarea de nivel primario tan difícil de entender. Especialmente la tarea de matemáticas, como lo que está pasando aquí? Soy buena en matemáticas, pero la forma en que los problemas de matemáticas están redactadas hoy en día es como nuestros hijos estuvieran en la universidad. No estoy bromeando, le ocurre esto a usted? El fondo es que si usted es una madre, el tiempo de tarea es tiempo de tortura. No porque pasamos tiempo con nuestros hijos y compartimos con ellos, sino porque a veces la tarea que se les da nos hace rascarnos la cabeza y en segundo lugar conjetura nuestra inteligencia.

 

Tenemos papá envidia

Soy la primera en admitir que a veces tengo envidia de mi esposo. Envidio a mi marido porque él duerme como un recién nacido y no tiene interrupciones nunca. Se puede comer su comida en una sola sesión, puede usar el baño, ya el tiempo que quiera sin tener a los pequeños golpeando la puerta abajo. Sí, envidio a mi marido a veces, y sé que tú también. Admitirlo mamá, yo estoy aquí para ti si alguna vez necesitas hablar basura sobre su marido (por favor, lo hacemos con nuestras amigas y hermanas), si alguna vez tiene que expresar sobre cómo se las arreglan para ser el padre “cool” sin tener que limpiar el vómito en el medio de la noche o despertarse cada vez en media noche porque cre que los niños están llorando. Papá siempre será el padre “cool” no importa lo que hacemos las madres y por eso los envidio.

Nosotras lloramos

Ni siquiera sabes cuántas veces he llorado porque creo que no pueda manejar ser mamá. He llorado porque estoy cansada, porque necesito ayuda, porque mis hijos no quieren comer su comida y porque a veces ya no puedo mas. Todos hemos llorado en un momento u otro, nos preocupamos demasiado acerca de ser una buena madre que a veces tiene un peaje en nosotros. Hemos llorado porque sentimos que no estamos preparadas para ser madre y la lista puede seguir y seguir. Todas hemos llorado y va a continuar  porque ser padre es uno de los trabajos más difíciles que tenemos que hacer y por lo que queremos estar cerca de la perfección como sea posible. Está bien llorar y necesitamos unos a otros para apoyarnos y nesecitamos que nos juzguen o hacernos sentir peor de lo que nos sentimos.

Les mentimos a nuestros hijos

Les decimos a nuestros hijos mentiras blancas aquí y allá, porque seamos sinceras, a veces tenemos que mentir. De otra manera no nos van a dejar tranquilas, los niños les gusta pedir y si no les mentimos acerca de comprar el juego que acaban de ver un minuto en T.V. será arruinada el resto del día. Por lo tanto, sí todas hacemos lo mismo, si no lo ha hecho, lo hará. ¡Créeme! Hemos mentido acerca de comprarles un juguete, sobre la compra de un cachorro, cualquier cosa realmente sólo para conseguir que hagan lo que sea que queremos que hagan. Es algo así como un comercio, les mentimos con la esperanza de que nos crean y hagan lo que les hemos pedido que hagan. Funciona cada vez.

 

Estamos caminando zombis

No tenemos un  buena noche de sueño el momento en que nacen nuestros hijos. Hemos renunciado a nuestros derechos para dormir en el momento en que entramos en nuestra casa con nuestro bebé recién nacido. Es más, FINITO! Creo que todos podemos ser zombis BBF y presumir de que todavía funcionamos incluso con 2 horas de sueño,  toma eso  papás, jaja! ( es broma). No, pero en serio, ¿te acuerdas de la última vez que tuvistes un decente 8 horas de sueño? Ni yo, esto es nosotros aquí y ahora y para el resto de nuestras vidas. Sólo debo presentarme como “Ros Emely el zombi caminando”. Así que ¿por qué juzgar y la negatividad que rodea el camino de una madre de crianza de los hijos, cuando en realidad ninguna de nosotros dormimos lo suficiente para llevarnos a través del día y todas somos zombis. Su forma de ser madre no es la manera perfecta si parece que no puedes dormir una buena 8 horas corrida, ¿verdad?

 

Mamá oso

Nosotros protegemos a nuestros hijos hasta el final y ver si alguien le haces daño o maltrata a nuestros hijos, porque vamos a conseguir todo tipo de loca. Eso es sólo nuestra reacción natural como madres, protegemos a nuestros hijos y lo demostramos a ellos también. Nuestros niños encuentran consuelo en nosotras, se sienten seguros y protegidos y por supuesto que vamos a mantenerlo de esa manera. Cuando oímos hablar de un niño que fue herido por otros seres humanos, lo primero que hacemos e llorar, nos enojamos y tercero nos ponemos en el lugar de la madre. Sentimos el dolor de la madre, nos sentimos mal por el niño y luego nos enojamos con el que hirio a este niño inocente, amoroso, feliz. Está en nuestras venas y corazón  ser  mama oso y lo tomamos en serio.

 

Estamos aprendiendo

Cada día que pasa, se aprende algo nuevo. Leemos blogs o revistas,  vemos y oímos hablar de maneras de ser una ama de casa feliz, o formas en que podemos eliminar el estres, lo que se puede hacer cuando sus hijos tienen una rabieta pública y así sucesivamente así sucesivamente. Estamos ansiosas por aprender a ser grandes madres a nuestros hijos que cada día estamos aprendiendo trucos y consejos sobre la maternidad. Todos lo hacemos, todos tenemos eso en común también. Ser madre es la hora de aceptar su debilidad y aplicar algunas técnicas para mejorar en eso. ¿Sabes algo? Cada día aprendemos de otras madres y ellos aprenden de nosotras también! Es increíble, su madre puede enseñarle algo, su abuela, amigas, tías, primas, hermanas e incluso extraños! Ser abierto de mente le ayudará a aprender nuevas cosas acerca de ser una madre que nunca sabías antes.

¿Lo ves? Somos madres, vamos a través de más o menos las mismas cosas, nos necesitamos mutuamente para ventilar, para reír,  hablar basura de nuestros hijos, maridos y  vamos a lanzar nuestras suegras a la mezcla también. No podemos ser enemigas,  no podemos juzgar el uno al otro, tenemos que apoyarnos. Hay que tener la mente abierta y respetar las diferentes maneras en que criamos a nuestros hijos. Si la mama no esta mal criando, mal nutiendo al su hijo, entonces respeta su forma de criar.

El fondo es que todos estamos haciendo nuestro mejor esfuerzo, simplemente porque es posible hacerlo de otra manera no significa que el camino de la otra mamá no es una buena manera también. No hay manera correcta o incorrecta de ser madre, hay diferentes maneras de ser madre, pero todos tenomos el mismo propósito. Amar a nuestros hijos incondicionalmente, darles alimentos, ropa, refugio, risas, recuerdos y lo más importante un hogar lleno de amor.

¿Cuáles son las cosas más que se pueden agregar a la lista que todas las madres tenemos en común?

 Hugs, Ros Emely

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  1. Tikeetha Thomas says

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    WTH is wrong with some parents? Your advice was fine. I actually agreed with everything. I nursed my son but took the advice of my sister who said don’t be afraid to use the hospital nursery because you have the rest of your life with this child. Get the rest now. I did and it didn’t damage my son. I’m not lazy. He’s wonderful and I think some people should get a life and not try to tell you how to raise your child. Heck, I don’t agree with helicopter parenting but that doesn’t mean that I will bash another parent who does. You do what you think is best for your child. I wasn’t part of the procreation process what means that I have a right to tell you how to raise your child. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that foolishness. Great post.

  2. Chelsea @ Life With My Littles says

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    I love this! I had a post I was thinking about writing on this exact thing! We just need to support each other, even when our decisions are different. I used to be so set in my ways, but that doesn’t help anyone!! We need to help each other and just give each other love and support!
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  3. Clarissa says

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    You are so right, we should stop judging one another and stick together in the journey of parenting.
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  4. tineke - workingmommyabroad says

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    Couldn´t agree more, all this judging and the mommy wars… it doesn´t make any sense! Like you also mentioned we´re all going through the same things so let´s just support each other!
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  5. Ros Emely says

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    Thank you Tikeetha!! I’m so happy I am not the only one who didn’t sleep with their baby while being in the hospital, lol. My kids are doing great too, so I don’t get the judging. Exactly, we do what is best for us and our children and that’s it, no one should be negative about it. Thanks again!

  6. Ros Emely says

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    Thanks Chelsea! Oh I can’t wait to read it and yeah we all need to support and show love to each other. honestly being a mom is hard work and I know every mom knows it, so why be so mean to other moms who are trying to do the exact thing as you.

  7. Ros Emely says

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    Thanks Clarissa! You are so right, we need to stick together because parenting is hard and makes it even harder if we have other moms judging instead of supporting, you know?

  8. Ros Emely says

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    Thanks Tineke! It honestly doesn’t make sense to me either. We are all trying to raise our kids the best way possible and we should all be a tribe and support each other!

  9. Nina says

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    I remember when the “mommy wars” took hold of even the front covers of magazines and I thought it was nuts even back then! I have yet to meet a mom whom I completely, 100% agreed with. And I personally have also “switched sides” on certain issues I never thought I would. Goes to show that even we change our minds, and shouldn’t think about judging others.

    That’s pretty much what I remind myself whenever I feel like I’m slipping into the judging mode. I tell myself that I now do the very things I once judged in others.
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  10. Melanie @ HappyBeingHealthy says

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    Bwhahahaha!!! I love this post so much! I’m so sad you took so much flack about sharing your opinions about the hospital stay after having a baby. That is a sad, but perfect example of the judgments so many mothers place on each other. Motherhood is hard….period. I think all mothers should support each other and respect differing opinions! There is no right or wrong….as long as a mother loves and takes care of her children. I relate to every single thing you mentioned in this post. I’d never thought about dad envy before, but I think I have that! Ha ha!
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  11. cara says

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    Definitely agree with the one about us being clueless. Most of the time when we think we know best about something, we really don’t and learn that only a few months or years down the lines. Which is why it’s best not to judge others for the decisions they make. Until you walk a mile in their shoes you never know. Great post!

  12. Ros Emely says

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    Thanks Melanie! Yeah I was sad too but my skin just got extra thick you know? You are tight, there’s no Manuel for how to be the perfect mom, therefore there’s no right or wrong way of doing it.oh das envy is real girl! Haha!!

  13. Ros Emely says

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    Thanks Cara! I totally agree with you. Definitely do not judge unless you’ve been in their shoes.

  14. Pricilla Dsouza says

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    I agree..we should not judge each others parenting. Every child is unique and we are all learning from our mistakes.we should adapt what works best for us and our children. There are always best practices that will always be available but they might not be easily implemented…so parenting is a journey…we all fail and make mistakes..don’t be hard on yourself. And definitely dont judge other parents..

    http://smartwomanworld.com/positive-parenting-approach/

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