Did you know that some fathers to be, do not feel any connection to their baby until their baby is born? That is mind blowing to me but it does happen. I want to help you to involve your husband in your pregnancy, so both of you can be excited for baby.
You have this emotional and physical connection to your growing baby that your husband does not feel or can’t even relate to. That is why, it’s important for you to find fun ways to involve your husband in your pregnancy. You want him to be excited and feel very much part of your pregnancy journey.
You are not alone in this, your hubby is right there with you. He will hold your hands through it all and make you feel beautiful even if you’re puking in the toilet. Make him feel special, make him feel the same connection that you feel with your baby. He wants to be part of this, he wants to be included in your your pregnancy.
What is the role of father in pregnancy?
The role of the father is to support and be there for you (the mom). He helps you with important decisions like having a birth plan, asking your doctor any concerns he may have and also deciding on baby’s name. He is there to encourage you and be his wife emotional support.
Can a baby sense their father in the womb?
Yes they can! babies can feel or sense a touch from anyone. But once touch is familiar (like dads) they know it too. When I was pregnant with my first born, i remember my hubby would touch my belly and our baby would kick my belly instantly. Whenever ever he would put salsa music on, she would kick too. It’s such a beautiful thing.
10 fun ways on how to include your husband in your pregnancy
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1.Go to your doctor’s appointments together
One fun way to include your husband in your pregnancy is by going to your doctor’s appointment together. Even if he can’t go to all of them, just make sure he at least goes with you to some. This will allow him to ask any questions that he may have about the baby and about you!
Sonogram appointments are always fun, he will have the chance to see the baby, listen to the baby’s heartbeat and watch the baby move.
This is the perfect childbirth class for your husband or partner to take. It will help your partner define his role in labor, communicate with hospital staff, provide physical and verbal support and deal with any curve balls!
2.Keep him updated
One thing that I used to do with my hubby was to keep him updated about our baby. I would have my favorite pregnancy app in my phone, and everyday I would share with him the size of our baby and what fruit or vegetable it resembled.
Things like this will definitely help you include your husband in your pregnancy. If you’re reading pregnancy books and find something interesting and fun to share, then share it with him! Keep him updated and always in the know with everything that has to do with your baby and pregnancy.
3.Plan the gender reveal party together
Another fun way to include your husband in your pregnancy is to plan your gender reveal party together. Make him feel part of it by asking him what he thinks would be a fun way to reveal the sex of the baby. Do not just tell him your ideas and that’s how it’s going to be done. But, instead ask him what he thinks and let him be excited about the process too.
You can both come up with a really cool and memorable gender reveal, which makes it even that much special.
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4.Talk about your baby
Why not talk about your baby and have fun with it. Ask him questions like “who do you think the baby will look like” to ” Who’s personality will the baby have, yours or your husband’s”. You will be surprised how easily you and your husband will bond over a simple conversation about the baby.
5.Take maternity pictures together
Maternity pictures rule! I am obsessed with them because it’s such a personal and sweet moment that is captured forever in your life. You can both decide what style you want your maternity pictures to be like or if you want an indoor or outdoor photoshoot.
I am can guarantee that you both will have a blast during the photoshoot!
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6.Let him feel the baby kicking
Another fun way to include your husband in your pregnancy and really make him feel part of this amazing experience is to have him feel the baby kick. What a personal and unbelievable moment that will be, your hubby will feel so connected to your baby.
Every time your baby kicks while your hubby is touching your bump is like the baby is saying “hi, daddy”. They can totally bond like this and it will be awesome for you to experience too.
If you are planning on taking a prenatal class, you can online! From the comfort of your home. This prenatal class will simplify the labor process, so you can know what to expect. Learn what to expect from birth so you can be prepared!
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7.Tell him to talk to the baby
You can definitely encourage your husband to talk and even sing to your belly. Your baby can hear you, your baby can feel that you are both his/her parents. Make the best of it, by playing songs and talking to your baby because your are bonding as a family.
Every time my hubby would put salsa music on the radio, my first born would kick because she knew that was her daddy. Every morning my hubby would play salsa and would sing to our baby. He also did this with our twins, it was so much fun to watch and experience.
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8.Plan your baby shower together
A fun major event during your pregnancy is having a baby shower. If you are the one planning it, include your husband in the process. Even if you think he might not care much about the decorations or food.
You can give him small tasks to complete and this will make him feel like you were thinking about him during “your” special day. If someone else is planning your baby shower and it will be a total surprise for you, then your hubby may want to partner up with that person.
9.Agree on the baby’s name
Oh the big task of naming your child. This may make or break your relationship, I’m just kidding or maybe not. Naming your child is a big responsibility that you both have. So, why not make it fun and throw around your favorite names. Jot them down on a piece of paper, and keep eliminating the one you both don’t agree on until you decide on one that you both love.
This can take hours or even days, don’t worry because you both will eventually pick out the right name for your baby. Agreeing on your baby’s name is another fun way to include your husband in your pregnancy.
10.Talk about being parents for the first, second or third time
Start a fun conversation with your husband about what you both think will be like as parents. Talk about your parenting styles and what fun things you will do as a family.
Talk about your fears, your excitement and what you are both looking forward to the most about being parents. I truly feel that having a conversation with your husband about your feelings towards your pregnancy, giving birth and about being a mom will bring both of you closer.
Quick recap:
Your husband is as invested in your pregnancy as you are, he may not show it as much but he wants you to involve him in your pregnancy. Ask him to go with you to your next doctor’s appointment and see how his eyes light up when he hears your baby’s heartbeat.
Planning a baby shower and maternity shoot takes time and patience, you can ask your husband for advice and make him feel part of it. Show him the cool pregnancy apps that you read everyday to keep him updated on the baby and show him your sonogram pictures. I’m sure he will definitely feel included in your pregnancy.
Why not sit down one night and talk to your husband about your feelings of becoming parents for the first, second or third time. You can even go out on a date and bond that way. Involve your husband in your pregnancy today 🙂
These are great tips! My husband was really involved in my first pregnancy, but by my third, he didn’t care a ton!
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Thank you Chelsea!! Yes it’s always exciting the first pregnancy. Once the third comes along that excitement fades a little. That’s why it’s a great idea to still involve the husband’s in our pregnancy, so they can still be excited even if it’s our third or fourth pregnancy.
Yup, so true! My husband was very excited for both pregnancies, and it really helped keep my mood up! I didn’t feel at all like I was doing this alone. Even things like going to every appointment and being right there during the decision-making process.
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Thanks Nina! You’re right when our husbands are equally excited we feel more content and not alone. It’s important for husbands to be there for doctor’s appointments and important decision-making, it will make them feel involved and part of the pregnancy.
This is really good tips which you have shared, Will definitely try all these tips.