9 easy ways to be a more patient mom
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I don’t remember when I started being an impatient person. But, I am going to bet my money that it was when I became a mom. Being a mom automatically has us to wearing many different hats, from cooks to homework helper to cleaners and taxi drivers. It’s overwhelming at times and thus making us easily lose our patience. That’s where we need to find simple ways that will help us become a more patient mom.
I have been working on myself to live a more positive life, which includes that as a mom, I need to yell less and be more patient. Sometimes we let our day to day frustrations take over our lives and it reflects in our actions. It takes time and consistency to be a more patient parent, but it’s definitely worth it and you will see how your life as a mom will become less stressful and more intentional.
Being patient is a virtue that somehow gets thrown away to the back burner once we become a mom. We need to practice being patient parents in order to gain it back again. We also need to understand that our children needs us to be patient probably even more than we need it ourselves.
What can help to become a more patient mother?
- Understanding your own emotions and triggers
- Setting boundaries for herself
- Having compassion for yourself
- Learning to respond instead of reacting in a negative way
- Learning to have control of your emotions
What causes moms their impatience?
- The feeling of not being in control of the situation
- Kids meltdowns or tantrums
- Frustrations and irritation build up from the day
- Not being able to manage your emotions
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9 easy ways to be a more patient mom
Breathe in and breathe out mama. I use this method most of the time when I feel I’m about to lose my patience. It works wonders. Having patience is being able to tolerate minor things (in this case, your kids) knowing how to control your outbursts and not letting it get the best of you. Want to better manage your emotions, stop yelling and be more patient as a mother? Enroll in the better mom course today! More joy less stress.
If your child is not listening to you, take a minute to breathe in and out and then try again. Now, you will speak to your child in a more calm and patient manner. The result is that your child will listen to you because you’re not yelling or stressing the situation.
Breathe in and out whenever you need to because this is working towards making you a more patient mom.
2.Pray (if you’re religious)
I always say that a quick and yet powerful prayer will always make you feel good. Talk to God and let him know that you need his help. You need to become a more patient mom and that you know you will achieve this through his blessings.
I pray to be a more patient mom, it may sound silly or something insignificant to ask God for. But, remember that God always listens to his children no matter what you ask him for.
What will help you become a more patient mom?
- Pray with faith
- Believe in the power of prayer
- Practice being patient and God will meet you halfway
Practice makes perfect! We always remind our kids about it every time they fail at doing something for the first time. So why not, remind ourselves of this valuable piece of advice? It’s true that practice makes perfect and in order for you to be a more patient mom, you need to practice being one.
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Steps to you can take:
- Have an accountability partner to help you out
- Count 1 to 10 when you catch yourself losing your patience
- Don’t give up
- In a piece of paper, write down what is causing you to lose your patience and then ask yourself if it was worth it.
4.Give your child a chance
I’m pretty sure your child (or kids) have a lot on their minds that they must tell you right now at this instant. So many stories but so little time, am I right? Sometimes, it’s at the busiest or most stressful time of your day. For example, when you’re cooking lunch or dinner. When your talking to a customer service representative about a late fee they charge you when you obviously paid your bill on time. And the list can go on and on.
Give your children a break and just listen and give them a chance. Let’s break the bad habit of cutting them off or rushing them to finish what they are saying and let them actually finish. You are practicing your patience by providing them with your full attention.
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Keep this in mind:
- Your children need you
- You need to show them that you are interested in what they have to say
- You will not feel guilty afterwards
- Your patience is shining through
5.Kids are kids
Weren’t we kids once? So why are we so impatient with our own children? Kids are kids and they are full of questions, stories, energy, games and everything else that sadly can sometimes make us lose our patience. Why not let your children enjoy nature and let them look at how the ants on your front porch work as a team? Even if you need to get to your doctor’s appointment on time.
When working towards being a more patient mom, we need to realize that our children may not understand why we are being so impatient with them. When all they want to do is look at the ants on the ground?
Action to take:
- Give your child a time frame
- Give yourself a time frame. For example, tell yourself “I’ll give them 5 more minutes to look at the ants but then we have to go”
- Explain to them that you have an important doctor’s appointment to go to and you cannot be late. You can tell them ” Okay guys, I’ll give you 5 more minutes but then we have to get going”
- Again, breathe and enjoy the ants too!
6.Let the small things go
There are times when you may get so caught up in the small things that are not worth your time or emotions. If your child forgets to turn off the bathroom lights, let it go and don’t get worked up about it. Simply breathe and count to five. Then, patiently tell your child that they need to turn off the lights after they finish using the bathroom.
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What happens if you don’t let the small things go?
- You will get stressed
- You will be in a bad mood
- You will have zero patience throughout the day
Letting the small things go will result in you becoming a more patient and happy mom. Which in return, will help you focus on better and more important things throughout your day.
7.Lead by example
As parents, we must lead by example whenever possible. Being, patient is not an exception of the rule. You must encourage your children to be patient by showing them that mommy can be patient too. Even if it’s difficult for you to do, your kids need to know that having patience is a great personality trait to have.
You can lead by example by:
- Explaining why it’s important to be patient
- Playing games that requires your patience ( ex. taking turns)
- Showing them that you can be patient when waiting at a restaurant for your food or waiting for a movie to start at the theaters.
You’d be surprised how powerful having a good night sleep is. When you wake up in the morning well rested, you feel great and you are willing to take on everything on your to do list with a positive attitude. Let’s not forget that with a good night’s sleep, you will have more patience!
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Keep in mind:
Take care of yourself by getting the rest that you need because this small yet effective tip will help you in becoming a more patient mom.
9. Practice selfcare
I am a firm advocate of taking small breaks throughout the day when ever you need it. Do not work past the point of exhaustion because it’s not healthy for you and it’s not fun for your kids. You need to re-charge in order to continue on with your day and therefor helping you have more patience.
If you’re too tired, you will most likely snap at your kids and not have the patience to listen to their never ending stories. Also, if you’re too tired you may not want to play with them or you will rush them into finishing whatever it is that they are doing.
Take your break and you will see how less stressful and more fun your day will be.
No one said that being patient was going to be easy but we can sure try. In only 9 easy steps you are well on your way to become a more patient mom.
Remember to breathe and take a break when you can or when you need to. This will help you re-charge and think through the situation that is making you lose your patience. Praying is another great way to help you become a more patient mom.
Listen to your children because they need you and want to share their little moments with you. Lead by example and through your actions show your children the importance of being patient.
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