Motherhood is hard, isn’t? There may be times where you ask yourself, will I ever get used to this, will I ever get my identity back? Will I ever be a happy mom? The answer is Yes! Do not loose hope because I’m going to show you how to be a happy mom even when you think it’s hard.
Even though you may be stressed, wake up on the wrong side of the bed or your kids misbehavior drive you to the edge of insanity. You can still be happy, you can still feel blessed and you can still be grateful. Sounds crazy in the mist of the chaos, I know. I have learned to be a happy or be a happier mom not only for my children and hubby, but for myself as well.
Being happy is a choice and you need to choose it in order to enjoy motherhood. You deserve to be a happy mom and it only takes a few adjustments in your life to achieve that. These tips are simple and easy to implement, with practice and consistency, you’re on your way to being a happier mom.
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15 simple ways to be a happy mom even when you think it’s hard
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1.Have a hobby
Being a mom does not signify loosing yourself in the mist of everything that entails you to be a mom. You need to have a hobby for yourself, for you to enjoy and to look forward to each day. Most importantly for you not to loose your mind but to find a sense of identity.
Yes you are a mom, but you are so much more than that. To be a happy mom, you need to do things that makes you happy. Having a hobby that you can call your own, will make you happy.
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2. Plan out your day
I love writing on my planner and planning out the things that I have to do throughout my day. This keeps me sane and in charge of my tasks. To be a happy mom, you need to have a plan and execute it as best as you can.
You do not want to be stressed figuring out what needs to be done other than feeding your kids. Plan out your day on your smart phone, planner or a loose piece of paper. Write down your to do list and you’ll be more happy that way.
Some of my favorite planners (I’ve used)
- 3. Focus on easy meals
I love to cook easy family recipes because It usually takes me less than an hour and there’s no fussing. Do not try to complicate your meal planning by wanting to do a 4-course meal. Keep it simple, easy and delicious, trust me your family will love you either way.
Sometimes, you may complicate things by overthinking things, keep it simple 🙂
4. Practice patience
The more patience you have the less stressed you’ll be. Having patience requires practice and consistency because it’s hard at times to find patience where there’s none. I know this first hand but I also know that you can enjoy motherhood by being more patient.
5. Have quiet and alone time
Let’s face it, you need peace and quiet even if it’s for 10 minutes, I know that I do! I love having alone time, I read my bible in the mornings and it makes me feel like I’m starting my day off right. You do a lot in your day and you deserve some alone time whenever you can get it.
Finding time for yourself is very important because you will feel re-charged and you will feel good. You need to feel good, feel relaxed in order to be a happy mom and person.
6. Go out, kid free
Go on a date with your hubby or go out with your sisters or friends alone without your kids. It is so worth it believe me, you need to. Going out and having fun kids free is liberating and something you need as a mom. You need a breather from your everyday chaos at home. Yes, we love our children but we also need time away from them.
You need to talk to other adults, catch up on things other than a new episode of Daniel the tiger. I love going out on dates with my hubby and I also love shopping with my sisters. I do not do this often but I try my best to do it twice a month. I’m more happy this way and you will be too!
7. Limit the yelling
Oh don’t feel bad if you yell at your kids, we all do it and sometimes we do not have a choice. The smart way to be a happy mom is to limit the times you yell at your kids. Yelling makes everything worst, doesn’t? Instead, try practicing your patience here, breathe and talk to your kids.
I find that when I yell, my whole day turns sour. Also, yelling will automatically put you in a bad mood. Limit the yelling and get back to enjoying your day.
8. Family outing
Nothing is better than enjoying a beautiful day with your family. That’s why, you should go out with your family and have some fun. Maybe go to the zoo, museum or to the movies, you will enjoy yourself and because of that you’ll be a happier mom.
I know that your family means the world to you and that’s why I am suggesting you to find the time for them and create fun loving memories, even if it’s at home.
9. Eat chocolates
When everything else fails, eat some chocolates! But seriously, have a treat and you will feel so happy. I always have chocolates in my house because sometimes I need that pick me up during the day. Chocolates makes me happy and it’s definitely worth indulging on after a long and busy day.
10. Have things prepared before hand
Do not make things 10x harder for you by not having things prepared before hand. For example, during school days, I have my daughter’s uniform nicely folded and ready every night. This makes my mornings go smoothly and stress free. If your kids eat snacks, have their snacks ready the night before and eliminate work for the next day.
If you’re cooking the next day, try to have your vegetables chopped and chicken or meats marinated the night before. This way, you are ready to bake it in the oven or cook stovetop the next day. Having things prepared before hand will definitely help you be a happy mom.
11. Take a break
A happy mom takes a break and knows that it’s vital for her health and sanity. If you need to take a break, then take it and do not feel bad about it. You are a mom but you are not super women, take your break and relax because you deserve it.
If you’re stressed and overwhelmed, you are going to be unhappy and unmotivated to continue on with your house responsibilities. Re-charge and be happy.
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12. Let some things go
Learning how to let things go is a big step in the right direction. Sometimes we dwell on things that are not worth our time or feelings. Let the small things go, learn from it and then focus on something else.
13. Read a motivational book
I love reading motivational books because it gives me this feeling of “I can accomplish” anything thrown my way. I love getting lost in these books and feeling inspired to reach my goals and work hard for the next one.
Reading books is an awesome way to enjoy your alone time and to do something that you like. Finding the time is key but once you start reading your book uninterrupted there’s no turning back. Grab a book that inspires you and transmit positivity. You’ll be so happy.
My favorite motivational books (I’ve read):
- How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life
- 14. Don’t do everything yourself
One thing that we as moms fail to do is to ask for help when we need it. This is a mistake because everything falls on you, you will feel like your chores are never ending and will then loose your mind. It has happened to me, I felt like I had to do everything and never really took a break. I was a miserable and tired mom.
Now, I ask my kids to clean up after themselves, whether is to take their plates to the kitchen after they are done eating to picking up their toys after they’re done playing. My hubby also helps me around the house after I have asked him 3 times. Hey! at least her does it, haha!
Ask for help and you shall get the help, you’ll be a happier mom, I promise!
15. Enjoy motherhood
The best advice I can give you in order to be a happier mom is to play with your kids and enjoy motherhood. Be silly, have fun and be the mom that your kids deserve you to be. You will always go through your ups and downs as a mom, no doubt about it. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your children and create long lasting memories.
Once you let go and look around you, your kids, your husband, your family. You are blessed and you are loved and guess what!? That’s enough reason for you to be a happy mom.
As you know being a mom can come with it’s ups and downs. Sometimes you may feel like the world is crumbling down on you and sometimes you may feel like you finally are doing it right. You are raising your kids the best way that you can, you have food on the table everyday, your kids have clean clothes to wear, they have a place to call home, but most importantly they have love. That’s enough reason to be happy.
Simple steps like having a planner, being prepared the night before and cooking easy meals will help you become a happier mom. Going out with your hubby on a date or simply going out shopping with your sister or friends is also another easy way to be a happy mom.
Being a happy mom is a choice, do small things to eliminate the stress like getting help from your hubby and kids when you need it and having alone time even if it’s only for 5 minutes. Take a break because it’s crucial for you and your health, do not do everything. Breathe and get on the floor and play with your kids!
Enjoy every minute of motherhood, happy mom equals happy life, kids and hubby 🙂