Mother’s guilt is real! I believe is something that comes with the territory of being a mom. But, it does not have to be that way! I’m going to share with you how you can easily overcome mother’s guilt in simple steps. Because a mother’s guilt does not have to be a part of your life anymore.
I can go on and on about how many times I’ve felt guilt after yelling at my kids, going out without my kids and I’ve even felt guilty when my kids didn’t like the food I cooked. Like what!? Sometimes you may find yourself doubting your abilities of being a good mom. Feelings of inadequacy can creep in as well. That’s why I’m sharing with you how to get rid of mom guilt.
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Having guilt over small things, over things you have no control of or over things that it’s good for you (like going on a date night without the kids) is insane! You need to have peace of mind, live a more enjoyable mom life and feel free! With these mom guilt tips you’re going to do just that 🙂
What is mom guilt?
“Mom Guilt is the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by mothers when they worry they’re failing or falling short of expectations in some way” (source)
Things moms most likely feel guilty about:
- Being a working mom
- Being a single mom
- Not spending enough time with their children
- Arguing with spouse in front of kids
- Going out without kids
- Having fun without kids
- Spending too much time with kids
- Screen time
- Yelling at their kids
- Buying fast food for lunch or dinner
- Getting a divorce
You can add a thousand more things to this list right? Mom guilt is ingrained in us, in our minds, life and soul. If you do not let go of it. It will take a toll on you and you won’t be able to enjoy your life as a mother. It’s time to get overcome mother’s guilt once and for all!
Mom guilt can cause moms to feel:
- shame
- increase anxiety
- burnout
- exhaustion
When you create these unrealistic expectations of what a perfect mother is. That’s when you feelings of mom guilt comes up. Because you’re trying to compete with perfectionism. It never ends well. Have self-compassion and a new perspective of what a good mother is. Is definitely not a perfect one.
I created this super helpful online course to help you overcome mom guilt step by step. So that you can start living a more joyful and confident mom life without the everyday mom struggles. In this course, you’ll learn how to finally break free from the shackles of mom guilt. It’s the same tools that have helped me and thousands of other moms turn guilt into grit, self-sabotage into self-confidence. Enroll in the course here!
9 incredible ways to easily overcome mother’s guilt today:
1.Do not compare yourself to other moms
Here’s the thing, comparison is evil and it will ruin you! I know that’s a little bit dramatic, but it is so true. I have lived it and ever since I stopped comparing myself to other moms, I am happier.
Remember that what you see on social media, whether you’re instagramming or facebooking, You only see what people want you to see. It’s not real life. Every single mom goes through the stressful sleepless nights, tantrums stage, mommy burnout and so much more. Comparing yourself to other moms will only bring more mommy guilt to you.
Here’s what to do:
Do not worry about what other moms are doing or not doing with their family. And, worry only about what you want to do or change in order to be a better you/mom.
2. Have time for yourself
You need self care and you need time for you. To do things that makes you happy, makes you feel beautiful, do things that you love. How about going to the gym, eating healthier and taking up a fun hobby? All of these things are going to help you feel better about yourself and therefor make you feel less guilt.
How does this correlate? Well, let me answer that girl! You see, when you nurture your body,mind and soul, you will automatically become a better you and a better mom. You will overcome mother’s guilt, It’s that simple!
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3. What causes your mom guilt?
Knowing the triggers that lead to mom guilt is very helpful! You now have an idea of what is causing the guilt and therefor can act on it. For example, let’s say you feel mommy guilt every time you yell at your kids. What you may want to do now, is instead of yelling, you can take a break and control it.
If you’re a working mom and feel that working mom guilt because when you get home, you don’t spend much needed time with your kids. Instead, you’re picking up the house, making dinner and catching up on other things.
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Here’s my advice
Next time you get home from work, set aside 10 minutes where you dedicate it solely to your kids. This will help you overcome mom guilt, help you bond with your kids and you are also getting things done around the house.
4. Learn from your mistakes
An easy way for you to overcome mom guilt is to learn from your past mistakes. Listen, we are all humans here and we are bound to make mistakes, specially being a mom. We learn as we go. So, let’s say you couldn’t make it to your child’s school play. Instead of feeling all sorts of guilt, know that you can totally make it up next time.
Make a promise to yourself that next time your child has a school play, you are going to be there. Write it on your planner, phone or piece of paper. Simple actions like that are going to help you eliminate the guilt and instead focus on what you can do next time around. You can even journal your emotions, guilty feelings, find what are the sources of guilt and then take action in eliminating it.
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5. Pray
I love to pray because it makes me feel more connected to my savior. But, it can also be so healing. Don’t be embarrassed to pray for yourself, to ask for forgiveness, to be a better mom and to overcome mother’s guilt. Honestly, you can pray about anything and it will automatically make you feel heard, cared for and good! Praying is powerful mama!
6. Positive self talk
You need to give yourself some grace and know what a great job you are doing as a mom. Give yourself a pat on the back and tell yourself what an awesome job you’re doing. Positive self talk helps your mind, well being and most likely your mood. Just like you tell others how well they are doing something, you also need to be kind to yourself.
7. Have Quality time with your family
Instead of feeling bad of the many times you have pushed off playing with your kids. You should most definitely make up for the lost time and spend quality time with your children and family. Honestly, even if you spend 10 minutes of your day to bond, play, talk and be silly with your kids. They are going to treasure that forever.
So, do not feel guilty about not spending hours with your kids, but instead be proud of the quality bonding time you did spend with them.
8. Was it really that bad?
Think about what is causing your mom guilt and then analyze it and see if it was really that bad? Do you feel guilty of going out with some friends and leaving your kids at home for a couple of hours? Yes, you may miss them but you should never feel guilty about it!
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9. You’re doing great
All you need to know is that you’re doing a great job as a mother. There will always be good times and hard times. You may yell at your kids, you may feed them fast food, you may do the “cry it out” method and feel terrible afterwards. But know, that guilt is not one of those things that you want to have around.
You are doing amazing, you know yourself and your family very well to know that everything that you do is for their well being. Be you, be happy, learn from your mommy mistakes and live mom guilt free!
As you know, having mom guilt is real and moms feel it more than they want to. I know! But, you know what’s even better? Overcoming mother’s guilt it and thriving as a mother. I used to feel mom guilt all of the time and it was not helping me become a happier and better mom. So, I let it go and I tried to focus on the positive.
I also came into a realization that sometimes we feel guilty over silly things like working, spending time with friends, going on a date night and so on. These are all things that we need to do in order to provide, feel good and survive motherhood.
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