Just had newborn twins or have a twin pregnancy right now and want to know how to survive life with them? I don’t blame you mama, I’m a twin mom myself and I’m here to share with you 10 excellent ways to survive the first few weeks with newborn twins!
Having twin babies is definitely a blessing but it is also very demanding. You are taking care of two babies at the same time after all. Being twin parents is not easy because it’s double the diaper changing, feeding, burping, bath time and attention. Yes, it’s a lot but I promise that these tips will help you survive life with newborn twins.
I have boy/girl twins that are now 7 years old. I also have an older daughter who is now 11 years old. When my twins were babies, I encouraged my daughter to help me. I gave her small tasks and she loved it. If you have older children, involve them in their siblings lives. It will make it easier for you as well and you’ll have extra set of hands helping you besides your partner too. Remember to take a deep breathe and know that you got this!
I hope you find these new parents of twins hacks helpful in surviving your life with twin babies.
10 ways to survive the first few weeks with newborn twins
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1.Create a routine
The most important tip I give all of my mama friends and family members is to create a routine. You need to have a routine with your newborn twins. Having a schedule and routine is what really helped me survive the first few weeks with newborn twins. Not only are you going through sleep deprivation but you also do not want to live in constant chaos without having a good structure at home.
Have the same nap time, feeding time, bath time. Do not give up and stick with it. If you get invited to a family event that happen to fall on your twins nap time. Skip it, sleep twins and go after they wake up. Creating a routine for you and your baby is crucial the first few weeks because it’s going to help you in the long run.
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Taking notes and writing down the times you fed each of your twins, how many diapers have you changed, nap time and more. It’s really super important, this way you do not overfeed one twin and then the other one is left hungry.
Take notes on the type of poop your babies have this way if you think is weird or not normal you can describe it to your pediatrician. Take notes on how long your babies sleep and things like that.
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3. Have a schedule and stick to it
A routine and schedule is sort of the same thing. But at the same time it’s not. Having a schedule is knowing exactly at what time you need to feed your babies, take them a bath, sleep them and such. In order for you to have peace of mind and time for yourself. You need to stick to your schedule. Sticking to your schedule will give your twins a sense of security and knowing what to expect. And you will also know what time during the day you have for yourself and plan ahead.
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4. Keep them together
Twin babies love to be together and it’s the cutest thing in the entire world. I loved every single moment . They feel secured and safe with one another. They did spend 9 months (or less) in your womb together. Have them in the same playpen during the day, if you have baby bouncers, put them side by side.
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5. Connect with other twin mamas
If you are feeling overwhelmed, tired and just feel like you can’t handle being a twin mama. Connect with others and form your own support group, or be part of one. Join facebook groups of parents of multiples or follow a twin mama instagram account to feel connected. It’s great to know that you are not doing this alone, that there are other moms who are going through the same thing as you. Taking care of twin babies is not easy.
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6. Ask for help
Ask your family and friends to help you out. Do not feel embarrassed about it, instead know that you can’t do this alone. It literally takes a village. For example, your family and friends can help by taking food to you, cleaning the house, feeding one twin while you feed the other (if you are not exclusively breastfeeding) and more. There are so many different ways your family can help. Just ask, and you shall receive.
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7. Selfcare for you
Selfcare, who has time for it anyways when you’re too busy taking care of twins? You do! Even if you think you can’t have “me” time or even think about doing anything that you love, you need to! You have to put selfcare as a priority because otherwise you will lose your mind. One simple way to survive the first few weeks with newborn twins is to have time for yourself. Read a book, take a long bath, talk to a friend, go grocery shopping by yourself. I mean I can go on and on.
If you have family over, go outside with your spouse and take a walk. Breathe in fresh air, be by yourself for a couple of minutes. It’s so important for your mind, body and soul. Check out my first time mom guide for 25+ selfcare ideas, how you can sleep more as a new mom and how to create an effective routine for you and baby.
8. Do not forget about your relationship
I know that right now your main priority are your newborn babies. But, do not forget about your relationship. Your spouse also needs your attention, you both need each other. Having twins or any baby is life changing for everyone. Your spouse also needs support. So, talk to each other, be there for one another, and love one another more than ever now. Having babies definitely tests any relationship. But it can also build a strong bond as parents and lovers.
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9. Share duties with your spouse
If possible share baby duties with your spouse so the weight is not only falling on you. With my baby twins, my hubby and I both had to wake up in the middle of the night to feed them. They both woke up pretty much around the same time. So I grabbed one and my hubby the other one. They were not breastfed babies, so it made it easier for my hubby to step in and help.
Another way your spouse can help is by taking turns changing diapers, helping you during bath time and just being there for you really.
10. Take it a day at a time
I can say to you fellow twin mama is to take it a day at a time. Do not feel like you have to be perfect or get things right the first time. You will learn as you go to care for newborn twins. It will take time for you and babies to have a routine and schedule that works for all three of you. But, again I know you can do this, you will get through this and you will survive the first few weeks with newborn twins!
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I hope you found these tips and advice helpful. You are such a blessed mommy for carrying twins. It’s a beautiful thing, yes it’s hard work and super exhausting. But it’s a blessing!