Finding yourself struggling as a mom more than usual? You’re feeling defeated, alone, sad, maybe angry?
You’re not alone mama. In fact I’m 100% sure that every single mom has felt this way one time or the other. Is part of being a mother and learning everyday how to be a good mother.
The struggles that we find ourselves dealing with, How can I say this in a nice way? We bring it upon ourselves. Yes, I said it. Have you sat down and really think that maybe you are creating these struggles yourself? Of course uncontiously.
You see? Mom struggles are real and here to stay if you let it. And the reason you’re not happy, you want to throw in the towel and scream is because you have not addressed them yet.
So mama, I’m here to shed light on these reasons you’re struggling as a mom. So that you can overcome them and live your best mom life! I’m here for it!
7 Reasons you’re struggling as a mom
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1.You’re not asking for help
If you’re feeling like you’re struggling as a mom, chances are you’re not asking for enough help. Or you’re not asking for help at all. It’s okay to say “You know what I need some help, I can’t do this on my own”. Remember it takes a tribe to be a good mother. You need the help of your spouse specially if you want to eliminate the mommy struggles all together.
2.You do not take a break
How many times have you taken a break this week? Chances are very slim right? Why? Because as moms we feel like everything is in our hands. That we need to be “supermoms” and get shit done regardless of anything. I’m here to tell you to take a break. To listen to your body because your body is telling you “girl stop and relax”. You are deserving of taking a break, of putting off the laundry till tomorrow, of order in if you don’t feel like cooking.
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The real mom struggle comes from feeling mom guilt. Do you feel like a bad mom? That you’re not doing it right? This is mom guilt mama. The feeling of mom guilt needs to stop because chances are that you’re feeling guilt of things that you either don’t have control over or things that shouldn’t matter. You are a great mom, roll with this, practice self affirmations and know you’re doing your best.
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4.You’re not putting yourself first
How many times have you gone to bed exhausted, drained and so tired you can’t even think straight? I know I have! When all you do is work, work, work (your 9-5, mom stuff, house chores, ect) and no play, you are going to easily burn out. So, start putting yourself first mama. Start valuing your mental and physical health. Start shifting your mindset of “I don’t have time for self-care” to “I will make the time for selfcare”.
You will be a better mom once you realize that you matter too. That your happiness matters and your family will appreciate the new you! So start eliminating this mommy struggle!
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5.You do not have an effective routine
Wondering why you’re all over the place, looking like a hot mess? Is mostly likely that you haven’t created a routine for you or your children yet. Having a good and effective routine will benefit the way you go about your mom life. You’ll be happier, more organized and less stressed throughout the day. Yay!
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6. You’re comparing yourself to other moms
Another reason why you’re struggling as a mom is that you’re comparing yourself to other moms. Learn to love yourself, so you don’t start comparing and thinking you’re a bad mom. When you compare yourself to other moms, you start doubting your ability to parent, you start comparing your children to other mom’s children and think you’re not parenting the right way.
Listen, you are doing it right. Because everyone has a different parenting style and that’s okay! Stop trying to be like other moms and start being proud of who you are!
7. You’re not giving yourself grace
Listen I get it, you’re putting yourself at a high standard here. You want to be perfect and do everything right. Have perfect behaving kids and a happy marriage. That’s awesome! But remember that life is not perfect and there will be struggles. Your child might throw a tantrum today, doesn’t mean you raised him wrong or bad. You might argue with your partner next week, it doesn’t mean your relationship sucks.
Give yourself grace, forgiveness and love. Love yourself and be proud of the mother that you are. You’re not giving yourself enough credit. I’m here to tell you that you are a great mama.
Can you relate to any of these mom struggles? I’m sure you can because being a mom is not easy. We will fall down but get back up again. You got this mama!
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