Feeling like a bad mom is unfortunately very common. It’s a feeling that doesn’t feel good but it sometimes creeps into our thoughts. As moms all we want to do is be the best mom to our children. When things fall short, you’re too tired to play with your child, you’re burnout and are not enjoying motherhood. You feel like a bad mom!
Let’s face it, being a mom is hard. Like super duper hard. Like you don’t know how hard it is until you’re a mom yourself hard. ha! So, if you’re not enjoying being a mom, let your feelings flow. It’s okay to say “I’m not happy being a mom”. Because you’re human.
Now, the problem with not being happy about being a mom is that you are allowing other factors determine how you feel about who you are as a mother. You are allowing other people make you feel like your’re less than and are not a good mom.
These people or things are called the contributors to your mom guilt.
It’s time to take your power back, it’s time for you to let go of these contributors and say “Good Bye”.
You have to choose you!
5 people that are making you feel like a bad mother
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Do you know who is the biggest contributor to your mom guilt? Yourself! Yes, you are feeding your mind with negative thoughts about who you are as a mom. You are programming your brain and mind to think that you are already a bad mom. And so, you’re not going to care how you look, parent or what you do.
So start, changing your mindset and shift it every time you call yourself a bad mom. Instead focus on a mom wins and celebrate it. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “I am a damn good mom”. Keep saying it until you believe it, because it’s true.
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2.Mother in law
Oh boy! Let me not get started talking about mother in laws, lol. Your mother in law may be contributing to your mom guilt. She is making you feel like a bad mother every time she compares how she used to parent your husband and how you are parenting your children. Comments like “well I didn’t do that with your partner” or “are you sure that’s right because when your partner was a baby I didn’t do that”. These comments may trigger your mom guilt.
Family members can also contribute to you feeling like you’re not a good mom. Your mother, sister, cousin, grandma. I mean whoever. And this is of course unintentional (sometimes intentional) because I know they love you. And sometimes when family give you an advice, it can come across to you like they are not happy with how you parent. But, it means no harm.
Now, if they are triggering your mom guilt, you have to speak up. Let them know how they are making you feel and move on. You have to communicate if you want changes to happen.
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Soacial media can easily break you down and make you feel like you suck as a mom. It’s no joke. Everything seems perfect. the mom that you’re following is perfect, her children are perfect, her husband/partner is perfect. Right? Wrong! But guess what? Now you feel mom guilt and feel like you’re not good enough because you’re not like the mom you’re following.
This is a sick and unhealthy cycle! So you know what? Stop comparing yourself to other moms and focus on yourself. Focus on what you can do NOW with your family, how can you be more present and more happy.
Society has this unrealistic expectation of what a good mother is. If you breastfeed or not, co-sleep or not. Suddenly the answer determines who you are as a mother. I’m here to say “F” that! You must do you and understand that you’re doing the best that you can for your baby and your family. So what? If you’re not following society’s expectations of what a good mother is. YOU ARE A GOOD MOTHER regardless!
Let’s get real here mama, I know that being a mother is a lot of work. And if you keep letting these contributors to your mom guilt have control over your mind. You’re letting them or it win.
Understand your triggers and what or who is making you feel like a bad mom. And eliminate it! By having a deep conversation about it and let the person know that you don’t feel good when they say this or that. Start unfollowing those who are triggers to your mom guilt!
This is your motherhood journey, this is your life.
Take it back!
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