Have you ever felt not good enough? Not a good enough mom? You feel no matter how many times you try, you’re patient, you do things it’s never good enough.
You still feel like a failure and other moms are doing it better than you.
Can you relate?
I know that being a mom is super hard and challenging and demanding. Let’s face it! You may feel alone, that what you’re going through nobody understands and so you’re left feeling helpless.
I felt this way when I was going through my birth trauma because it was something I truly believed no one understands unless you’ve been through it right?
I felt alone, sad and mad because I was dealing with so much and no one really knew about it.
So, I’m going to encourage you to always speak up and share your feelings. Talk with your partner about how you’re feeling whether that is feeling anxiety, depressed, overwhelmed and angry! It’s okay to feel all of those feelings!
What is not okay is to feel like shit and not talk about those feelings. They can bottle up and then you literally explode! You don’t want this….
Let’s talk about feeling not good enough as a mom.
5 ways to stop feeling not good enough as a mom
1.Change your thoughts
Thinking you’re not a good enough mom is just a thought mama. Right now those thoughts became a belief for you. And I’m here to say you can easily change those thoughts about yourself. You can upgrade those thoughts!
First I want you to think or journal the things that makes you feel not good enough.
What are you doing or not doing?
Is it something another mother is doing that activates theses feelings?
Is it a comment from someone else?
All of these things plays a factor in you feeling like this.
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2.What thoughts do you want to believe about yourself?
Now that you know why you’re feeling like a bad mom or that you’ll never be good enough mom. It’s time to change those thoughts that has become a belief for you. The more you believe this is true about you, the more you’re going to act like not a good enough mom. The more you’re going to see all of these circumstances proving to you that you’re not good enough. So, let’s change your mindset about yourself. I love journaling!
In a journal or your phone’s notes app, Write them down…for example:
- I’m a freaking amazing mom
- I know exactly how to take care of my kids
- My kids have a very present mom
- I love being a mother even on hard times
- I love the way I take care of my family
Of course you can start with these example but will encourage you to write your own as well.
How do you feel now? How do you need to show up in your motherhood journey to make these feelings a reality?
Mama, just because you had a bad mom day doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom. That goes with not enjoying your postpartum journey, or hating the newborn stage or not being able to breastfeed. All of these circumstances are just that, things that happens, feelings that are valid. Do not define that as you being a bad mom or not a good enough mom. Shift your mindset about the experiences you’re having, whether good or bad. It doesn’t define who you are.
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4.Parent in alignment with who you are
Sometimes feeling not good enough as a mom happens because you’re too busy comparing yourself to others. Or you’re trying to be someone that you’re not because others are doing it one way. Sometimes the comments or opinions from others may play a role in how you parent. But trust me when I say that you must parent in alignment with who you are and what feels good to you. Always be yourself, parent how you want to parent and be proud of the mother that you are. You are enough!!
5. Remind yourself that you’re doing great
Focus on the small wins and celebrate them! It gives you a boost of confidence that’s only going to increase the more you do it! You are already doing amazing as a mom but if you want to keep working on believing that you’re good enough. Then, start celebrating the small motherhood wins. For example, celebrate that your baby slept through the night, or that your toddler ate his vegetables or that you are putting yourself first and practicing more selfcare. Yay!! Wins all of the way.
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I do not want you to feel stuck in motherhood and feel like you’ll never be a good enough mom.
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be perfect, different or be like another mom.
Just be you! parent in alignment with who you are and that feels amazing to you!
Remember, you can always rewrite your motherhood journey, start now…
Stop labeling yourself as not good enough! Today!
You got this, you’re amazing and you are always good enough!!!
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