Do you ever feel mom guilt? It’s very common for moms to experience feelings of guilt. And I’m sharing with you realistic ways to stop feeling mom guilt forever. Did you know feeling mommy guilt is a thief of joy? It’s like society and friends have ingrained in our minds that mom guilt is part of motherhood and “oh well” deal with it. Im here to debunk that myth and for you to have a different perspective on it.
It’s YOUR choice to feel mom guilt or not every single day. Overcoming mom guilt will help you be a good mother. Today I’m sharing with you 5 different ways you can overcome mom guilt forever. Your future self will thank you for it.
I remember feeling like a bad mom and having feelings of inadequacy with my first child. Here I was a young mama, working part time and going to college full time. I had all the workload on me and felt like a mess. My aunt took care of my first born. I felt so guilty about picking her up at night and hardly spending any time with her. I felt shitty to be honest.
But then I started to ask myself “Why am I feeling this way, when I’m working to provide and help my husband and going to college to do something with my life”. That question changed everything for me because I started to focus on how I can make the time I DO spend with my first born amazing. Then the mom guilt feeling started fading away. In my course I share with you the exact steps to end mom guilt forever! enroll here!
You see how feeling mom guilt is not helpful for your growth as a mother?
What happens when you feel mom guilt:
- Low self-esteem
- Feelings of doubt
- Feeling shame
- Never feeling good enough
- Increase anxiety
- not taking care of your own needs
- negative behaviors
- feeling of remorse
- feel like a bad mother
What happens when you’re not consumed with guilt?
- More confident
- Better decision making as a mom
- Stop people pleasing
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Feel Happier and calm
- Enjoy motherhood MORE!
- Start putting your needs and wants first
- feel like a great mom
- spend more quality time with your family
What causes mom guilt:
- Social media
- family members
- sending your child to childcare
- feeling you have to be the perfect mother
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5 ways to stop feeling mom guilt
1.Name your guilt
Okay, this one is so good! Why? Because you are naming your feeling and making it sort of like a person. When you name your feelings or emotions you can talk to it! So for example you name your mom guilt “Becky”, everytime you feel it coming up you can literally “Nope, not today”. It makes it more comfortable to eliminate it out of your life in an instant. Try it!
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2.How is it affecting your life
Think about the ways feeling mom guilt is impacting you, your kids and your life. First have compassion for yourself and then start asking these questions: What are you not able to do every time you let mom guilt control you? How do you feel? What do you tell yourself? What is your mood when you feel guilty? what do you worry about? Is it sadness, anxiousness, hopeless?
Ask yourself “How do I want to live my life moving forward?” How will my life change if I’m not feeling guilty all of the time?”.
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Journaling is powerful and so good for the soul. It’s like you’re brain dumping the things that happened throughout your day. And guess what? It’s a great way for you to notice any patterns or triggers around your mom guilt! What are you noticing that happens right before you start to feel guilty or bad? What things are you wanting to do but the guilt creeps in? Are people causing you to feel guilty? Once you know what is causing your guilt, then you can start working on eliminating those factors.
example for journaling to stop feeling guilty as a mother:
- Write positive affirmations
- Write a forgiveness letter to yourself or anyone who made you feel mom guilt
- listen to a podcast
- read a self help book
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4.Change your thoughts
When you start feeling the guilt, you are telling yourself something. What is it? “I’m a bad mom” “I shouldn’t leave my kids while I go out” or “other people’s children are hitting more milestones than my child, I must be doing something wrong”. You have to change those limiting thoughts about your circumstances. by changing your mindset about your situation. If you keep justifying your guilt then you are never going to break free from it.
Change your negative thoughts and turn them into a more positive and empowering thought. You can start saying “I’m going on a date night because my marriage is important and I don’t feel bad about it” or “Taking my child to daycare while I work is the best option for me and I love it” or “Mom guilt is a choice and I’m choosing not to engage in it”. You create your thoughts, believe in it and take action from that belief.
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5.Just decide not to feel guilt
Listen mama, this might sound crazy to you specially when you have felt guilty most of your motherhood life. Something as simple as just deciding that you will not entertain your guilt makes a huge difference in your life. You have the power to create your reality and if mom guilt is not part of it then ditch it! Tell yourself that you’re not going to feel mom guilt anymore because it will not be part of your life! Simple. Just DECIDE today!
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All of these tips will help you start the positive changes in your motherhood life. just start with the small things that are going to help you feel better. give yourself grace and love mama.
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