Let’s talk victim mentality as a mom. It’s not fun and I am going to be honest here, I may give you tough love. Also, there was a time in my life that I actually have played the victim card. You are not alone mama and I’m here to help you break free from playing the victim and start feeling empowered to create a life that you truly love.
When I found myself feeling bad about myself, always complaining to my husband that I’m the one doing everything and nobody helps. I was playing the victim because I was not taking ownership of my life and actions. Instead of asking for help, I just drowned in the victim mindset and wanting people to see me as the victim. So that they felt sorry for me. For what reason ? I don’t know.
So what changed for me? I’ll be sharing with you the tips that completely changed my life and shifted my mindset from being a victim to taking responsibility of my life and taking the right actions in creating a life that I wanted. More help from my husband and kids, happiness and purpose. You can overcome the victim mentality too.
Now there are a lot of reasons as to why you may have a victim mentality and mindset. And there are ways moms can stop the victim mentality.
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What causes the victim mentality?
You are not born feeling sorry for yourself or feeling like everyone is against you. so, playing the victim can be a coping mechanism that you developed when you were younger, it can stem from child trauma or experiences that made you feel like everything bad happens to you.
What are the signs of playing the victim?
- Blaming other people or circumstances when things don’t go your way
- Not taking ownership or responsibility of your actions or life
- Feeling sorry for yourself
- Thinking everyone’s against you
- Being overly critical of yourself
- Not believing that you have control over your life
Is it possible for moms to stop the victim mentality?
Heck yes mama! I have overcome playing the victim card and so can you. It takes a lot of self compassion, discipline and consistency. You have to commit to yourself to overcome it and start shifting your mindset for the better. You got this.
7 empowering ways moms can stop the victim mentality
1.Acknowledge your feelings
The most powerful thing that you can do right now in your journey of overcoming the victim mentality to acknowledge your feelings. Sit with being a victim, play the victim card for a minute. Then move on from it. It’s important for you to understand why you are trapped in this mentality. What happened in your life ? Did someone tell you something that contributed to your limiting beliefs mindset? What are you telling yourself? Being aware and acknowledging the fact that you are playing the victim, will help you break free from it.
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2. Take ownership of your life
One big step moms can stop the victim mentality is to start taking ownership of their lives and actions. Understanding that you, yourself have some part in creating your reality will help you start taking action in changing your life. One way to take ownership of your life is to stop blaming other people and your circumstances about why you’re miserable or why your life is the way that it is.
For example, you blame your kids for always yelling and losing your shit. Since your kids don’t listen or are always fighting with each-other , you resort to yelling. But, the real reason is not your kids, is you! Your kids do not control your reactions or feeling. you do. when you blame your kids for your reactions, you are not taking ownership of the situation. Therefor you don’t feel the need to change.
3. Give yourself grace and compassion
Mama, I want you to give yourself compassion and grace for taking on this beautiful journey, because you will default back to your victim mindset sometimes. But learning how not to be hard on yourself, but instead encourage yourself is what will help you overcome the victim life and mindset. When was the last time that you told yourself “it’s okay, you are doing an amazing job”? . It’s powerful when you are able to give yourself love while learning a new habit. You need to have your own back and believe that you are capable of breaking free from living as a victim. You are not a victim, you are the author of your own life.
4. Practice gratitude
Practicing gratitude is a great way for you to focus on the good things in your life. It keeps you grounded and appreciating your life a little bit more. You can create a positive habit in your life by practicing gratitude every day. You are able to see how your life is so much better than what you give it credit for. You are able to see your partner and kids in a positive way. Most importantly it decreases the victim mentality because you are saying “I am grateful for this and that”. It sort of redirects your brain and mind to see the good in your life which is a step forward.
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I love to journal because it helps me release anything I have inside that is keeping me stuck or holding me back. It gives me a way to notice negative patterns that I need to eliminate, so then I take action. When you journal, you are able to really write down everything that you feel and it feels damn good. You can start creating a habit of journaling and start noticing the positive changes that you are making in your life.
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6. Shift your limiting beliefs
When you are living as the victim of your own life, you tend to have limiting belief about yourself and life. Limiting beliefs are thoughts that are keeping you stuck and holding you back from your true potential. it’s that voice that tells you ” you’re not good enough” or ” you’re never going to get far in life” . Now the things is, that you are believing these thoughts that your brain is offering you. in order for you to overcome these limiting beliefs you have to create new thoughts and beliefs that feel good and empowers you to be your best.
Everytime your brain offers you limiting beliefs, you must redirect it to new positive and empowering beliefs that feels true to you. In my online course I teach you how to eliminate the victim mentality, shift your limiting beliefs and start becoming the mom that you want to be. Feel happier and more confident in creating the life you want! Enroll in the course here!
7. Celebrate yourself
Mama, this is how moms can stop the victim mentality by celebrating yourself more. This creates a positive self love practice that will help you overcome playing the victim card as a mom. Celebrate the small wins, love yourself more, belief in yourself more and know that you are capable to create the life that you want and be the mom that you want to be.
It’s time to take your power back, by taking responsibility of your life, This is where the magic happens. You are telling yourself that you can change your reality and life. You are able to take action towards what you want in your life and not depend on other people or your circumstances to change.
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