Living on survival mode and don’t know how to stop? I’m sharing with you tips on how to stop living on survival mode as a mom. Because I was once there too.
Let me paint a picture for you. A couple of years ago, I was living on survival mode and on the verge of a breakdown almost every other day. Summer days for me was the most stressful. My kids were home 24/7 and I didn’t have balance between working from home and taking care of them. I cooked, cleaned and spend most of my days doing and doing. My kids fighting with one another, being loud and I would constantly yell for them to stop and behave.
It was a struggle, I just felt so damn stressed and most days I would go to bed and just laid there almost crying. There was one time where i was so overwhelmed that I felt light headed and I told my kids “mami needs a break, play quietly please” they said “ok mami”.
I was on SURVIVAL MODE
I even went to a neurologist because I was getting constant headaches. It was due to the everyday stress. Shocker right?
That’s how bad it got
Can you relate?
It’s funny how we don’t realize that we are living on survival mode until something happens to us
we either can’t take it anymore
we feel stressed and get headaches.
The truth is that living on survival mode as a mom is basically just getting through the day. There’s no intentions, there’s no plan, it’s just “I need to survive another day”.
This is not a very healthy way of living and it will not make you happy if you keep creating this cycle over and over again.
The thing is mama, that being on survival mode effects you in so many ways:
- You’re not really present with your family
- you get irritated quickly
- stress and burnout are part of your everyday
- You’re not living in the moment
- Your mind is on “what do I have to get done next”
- You don’t enjoy being a mom
- Lack of sleep
- Fatigue hits hard
- You forget about yourself
Good news is that You can stop living on survival mode!
Motherhood can feel easier and you can have SLOW days. It’s possible.
The fact that being on survival mode is the pressure to always have the energy to do and do.
It’s the pressure to always get things done and be busy to feel good about yourself.
It’s not ideal and It’s not how you are going to be a better mom, trust me. Learn how I overcame living on survival mode and how I am actually thriving and loving motherhood. These are my helpful tips on how to stop living on survival mode as a mom.
7 ways on how to stop living on survival mode as a mom:
Most of the time as moms we forget about ourselves because we are too busy taking care of our kids and partner. So prioritizing yourself is so important to let go of the survival living. When you take care of yourself, you are telling yourself that you matter and that your needs and wants are important too. So mama, stop neglecting yourself and start doing things that makes you happy. Take on a hobby, take a mini break from your kids by going out to do groceries by yourself. Exercise and eat healthier. Etc.
Taking care of yourself will help you become a better, happier and more patient mom. Step into the best version of you for yourself and your family. In my online course I teach you how to make time for yourself, let go of the mom guilt and stress and stop living on survival mode. Enroll today!
2.Do not try to do everything at once
One thing is for sure, living on survival mode as a parent is putting pressure on yourself to get things done right now. It’s like you yourself created this deadline and if you don’t get it done, you’re a bad mom. This is not true. You are not a bad mother if you don’t get everything done on your to do list. So, start by concentrating on your top 3 things you have to get done that day. Take it one chore at a time. Let go of the pressure and what you associate it with.
3.Reconnect with yourself again
Reconnect with yourself again by rediscovering yourself as a mom. Think about What makes you happy? What are some hobbies that you love to do and stopped doing once you became a mom? What would you love to do now in this season of life that you’re in? Do you want to start a business? Go back to school? Apply for a promotion at your job? DO IT!! Reconnect with yourself, your desires and who you are as a person. You are more than just a mom and just because you have kids does not mean that your life stops.
As your life coach and mentor, I will help you rediscover yourself and go all in on yourself and your life. So that you stop living on survival mode but instead THRIVE as a mom and enjoy your life more. Learn about my private coaching program here!
4.Nurture your relationship with your partner
Oh gosh, how many of us forgot about our spouses when we became mothers? Sadly I kinda did. I mean, having kids takes a toll on you and it’s so demanding that you really do not have time for anything else but to be a mom. Well, you see there? That’s a thought that doesn’t have to be a reality. I made it a reality by thinking it was a fact. But you don’t have to. Your relationship has to be a priority for you so that you thrive as a mom.
Loving your partner and giving him attention and priority will help you feel happier and not live on survival mode. When you and your partner are happy, the entire household is happy!
5.Do not shame or be hard on yourself
When you are hard on yourself, you start to show up differently. More defeated, feeling helpless and being the victim of your own life. It starts with how you see and treat yourself as a person. Self love is so important because we can easily fall into the trap of nothing you do is every enough or feeling like a failure as a mom. Notice your thoughts about yourself, are they negative or positive? Change it to think more positive and loving thoughts about yourself so that you can take action from that place.
In my online course, i teach you exactly how to practice self love as a mom, how to stop neglecting yourself and how to stop yelling and being stressed-out. So that you can THRIVE as a mom and enjoy your life more. Enroll here today!
6.Focus on the positive
Being a more positive person is a habit that you create yourself. So start by focusing o the positive and the things that you are doing right as a mom and wife. What is working? What are you proud of? Start making it a priority to practice gratitude everyday to help you feel more grounded, calm and in awe of your life. When you focus on the positive you are less likely to be hard on yourself and live on survival mode. Because you are happy with yourself, more accepting of yourself and more proud of the things that you are doing.
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7.Manage your emotions
Ever snapped at your kids or partner over a small thing? Yup! been there and done that. It feels shitty doesn’t it? It’s so amazing when we learn to manage our emotions and learn to respond instead of react. So one way you can manage your emotions so that you don’t yell or snap is to practice mindfulness. Being able to be in the present moment, observing and staying calm. Being more aware of why you do the things that you do will help you manage your emotions more. Because you are able to find solutions instead of making any situation worst.
Managing your emotions is also not dismissing it. If you feel angry, sit with that emotion for a second and understand why you feel this way. Journal your feelings and ask yourself “what can I do to feel better?”.
Remember that in order for you to stop living on survival mode as a mom, you must believe that YOU CAN live a happier and more calm motherhood life.
*As your life coach and mentor I can help you stop living on survival mode, eliminate the stress and burnout and start loving and prioritizing yourself.
I help you change your life so that you feel happier, confident and better!