Working on yourself never stops, it starts with you being kind to yourself as a mom and knowing that you can thrive. Loving yourself is to be kind to yourself. Being a mom is very demanding, stressful and you may feel like you’re living a mundane life. Same thing different day kind of mentality.
This may cause you to feel inadequate, compare yourself to others and then be hard on yourself because you do not feel like you are being the mom that you want to be. or you feel like you are not living the life that you are meant to live.
When you make mistakes, you fail at something you may put yourself down and beat yourself up. You start calling yourself names and bring up past experiences where you felt not good enough or like a failure.
Being kind to yourself as a mom is so important. To break free form the negative self talk cycle that you are accustomed to. You can learn to be kinder to yourself as a mother, and enjoy yourself as a mom too.
Showing yourself kindness in spite of whatever is going on in your life, will help you LOVE and ENJOY your life more because you are choosing positivity. To treat yourself with kindness so that you can learn from your mistakes and not define who you are by them.
You are worthy of being kind to yourself. To speak to yourself like you would to your child, partner or friend. What you think about yourself will have an effect on how you show up in your life .You get to choose how you see and talk to yourself.
Why choose the bad, the negative, the thoughts that will make you feel worse and bad? Remember that you have a choice everyday to choose:
Love
Joy
Gratitude for being who you are as a mom
Why is it hard top be kind to myself?
Is so hard to be kind to yourself, specially when things do not go your way or if you failed at something or made a mistake. You are viewing yourself and defining who you are as a person based on your circumstances, past, mistakes and failures. Maybe is hard for you to be kind to yourself as a new mom because it’s all you know. You have lived this way for so long.
Thoughts like:
“I’m so stupid”
“I’m a failure “
“I never do anything right”
“I should have known by now how to do this”
“I’m not a good mom”
Can surface and rule your entire day. I have excellent tips on how to be kinder to yourself as a mother.
What’s an example of self kindness as a mom? Be kind to yourself activities:
- Positive self talk
- Practicing more gratitude
- Looking at the good
- Being more positive
- Saying all the things you love about yourself
- Accepting your flaws while still working on them
- Not calling yourself negative names
- Journaling
What does it mean to be kind to yourself?
Being kind and nice to yourself means speaking to yourself with love and compassion. Knowing that mistakes happen but that does not define who you are. Learning to forgive yourself and moving forward in a loving and more positive way. Motherhood is hard enough, why put yourself down and beat yourself up as a mom? Choose love and joy.
These tips on how to be kinder to yourself as a mom will help you be a better, happier, present and loving mother that you want to be.
6 powerful ways to be kind to yourself as a mom
1.Decide that today you will be kind to yourself
Everyday you have a decision to make as far as how your day will turn out. I want you to choose everyday to be kind to yourself. You can even say it “Today I will be kind to myself”. You are being intentional and will most likely follow through. Giving yourself this choice is empowering you to be in control of how you feel, act and choose to love yourself. Do it with kindness.
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2.Talk to yourself with love
How to be kind to yourself as a mom, is to talk to yourself with love and compassion. Is not calling yourself negative mean names just because something didn’t go your way. Being nicer to yourself is to know that you matter and how you speak to yourself will effect the way that you show up as a mom and wife.
You can start looking at it this way. Why is it do easy for you to talk to other people with love, patience and compassion but not yourself? You can totally give yourself the gift of speaking to yourself with kindness, love, compassion and patience.
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3.Ditch the negative self talk
Did you know that negative self talk comes from your thoughts? Yes! If you are thinking negative about yourself, it comes through your actions and how you talk to yourself. What you believe about yourself shapes who you are as a person. So mama, ditch the negative self talk. Have a different perception about yourself. Have a different more positive lense of how you are looking at yourself with.
You matter, you are worthy and you are so deserving of treating yourself with kindness. Not only that believing and knowing that you are loved. Love yourself deeply by not putting yourself down with words. Instead build yourself up, be your own cheerleader!
4.Practice gratitude
Want to be more kinder to yourself as a mother? So that you can be a better mom and wife? Start practicing gratitude. I practice gratitude every single day through journaling. Sometimes I wake up and start my day by saying “God I am grateful for..”. It just really changes the way that you look at life. You are more positive, joyful and thankful for what you do have in life. And you stop worrying about the things that you do not.
Practicing gratitude keeps you grounded, you focus on the good and you are able to feel joy and see that your life is amazing right now. Being grateful with what you have now will open the doors for more positive things in your life.
5.Focus on the good and positive
Mama, it’s time to start celebrating yourself more. This is how you will practice more kindness with yourself. By celebrating the small things in life. By celebrating on the things that you are doing right, what’s going right in your life and what you are proud of doing as a mom. Each day, celebrate and love yourself more. Be proud of yourself and learn to be your own cheerleader and hype woman!
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6. Practice self care
Okay, self care is a must as a mom. Understand that putting yourself first is not selfish because you are giving your kids and partner the best version of you. Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally and mentally matters. You matter mama, so fill up your cup and see how amazing you are going to feel. When you take care of yourself you are being kind to yourself.
My online course will help you find the time for self care and it comes with a self care worksheet with over 50 self care ideas to choose from! enroll today!
I hope you found these tips on how to be kind to yourself as. mom super helpful!
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