10 changes you need to make to be a happier stay at home mom
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I think we all can agree that being a mom can be hard sometimes. But there are ways to be a happier stay at home mom. So that you can thrive and love being a mom. I am a stay at home working mom. I love that I have my own business, which is this blog and I am also a life coach for moms. I have to admit that I love it and sometimes hate it. I’m serious, it’s like a love and hate relationship. Everything sometimes seems bigger and harder for me to do or accomplish. I knew I had to make a few changes in the way I was doing things in order for me to regain happiness and control.
I love the fact that I get to stay home and take care of my kids, take them to school and pick them up from school. Cooking for my family makes my heart full and I love being a stay at home mom and housewife. There are a lot of positives in being a stay at home mom. On the other hand, being a stay at home mom can have it’s down side as well, like you can fall into a repetitive routine, your kids screaming and whining can get annoying really fast and sometimes you get tired of basically doing everything around the house yourself with no help at all.
I have learned that being a stay at home mom is a blessing and that I am lucky to be able to spend every second I have with my kids because I know that other moms do not have that privilege. That being said, I have also learned that in order to be a happy stay at home mom I had to make a few positive changes to my life. These changes have helped me be a happier and more productive mom.
How do stay at home moms stop feeling overwhelmed?
If you are feeling down, feeling like all you do is clean, change diapers and cook, try changing a few things in your daily routine to make your stay at home life easier and better. These 10 changes that you need to make to be a happier stay at home mom will change your life.
How to thrive as a stay at home mom
Look at being a stay at home mom like a blessing and a choice that you made. This will help you have a positive association with being a stay at home mom. Have a routine for yourself and your kids so that you don’t feel stressed out. Do not be hard on yourself but instead celebrate your day and what went well.
10 changes you need to make to be a happier stay at home mom
1. Journal
Buy yourself a journal or notebook and start writing. Forget about doing it right or about grammar and spelling. Just write your feelings about anything. It feels good to release negative emotions and feelings on paper. It feels so damn good! My guided mom journal is the best!
2.Stop being your own bully
Gosh, this one is a big one! I see it with my clients all of the time where they are seriously their own bully and don’t even know it.
Stop putting yourself down, stop thinking you’re the worst mom ever, stop beating yourself up and stop believing the LIES that you tell yourself about yourself!
You are better, more smarter, beautiful, capable than you think you are.
3. Be kind to yourself
Love yourself, treat yourself with compassion!! Look at yourself in the mirror and don’t look at the failures, mistakes, bad choices. Instead look at the woman who have overcome the obstacles, the adversaries, the struggles, the pain. You overcame it or are going to.
You are your biggest cheerleader, act like it!
4.Play with your kids
Don’t you sometimes tell your kids “I’ll play with you later” or “not now, I’m busy” when your kids tell you that they want you to play with them? It happens and I am guilty of saying that too, not knowing that sometimes we just need to stop what we are doing and have fun with our kids. It will help us automatically feel happy and taking a break to get down on the floor and play doesn’t sound like a bad idea after hours of doing housework. Also, you don’t necessarily have to play with your kids, watching a movie together it’s a great idea too! This will help you relax and appreciate the fact that you are home and you are bonding with your kids which is so amazing in my opinion.
5.Practice self care
Do not ever give up on yourself. Just because you’re a stay at home mom doesn’t mean that your life is over and ends there. Your life is not all about your kids, it’s also about you. Not letting yourself go. You matter mama, you are worthy and important, start showing up for yourself this way. Practicing self care and taking care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally is going to help you be a happy stay at home mom and wife. You are refueling your tank, to give the best of you to your partner and kids. Self care is doing things that makes you happy, feel good and feel like you’re more than just a mom.
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6. Don’t sweat the small things
As moms we often tend to put all of our emotions into small things that aren’t worth it at all. Yes, it’s sometimes frustrating when your child spills their juice on the floor that you just cleaned 5 seconds ago. Yes, it’s frustrating when your child refuses to eat their food after you slaved in the kitchen making it and it’s even more frustrating when your child is giving you a hard time during their nap time. It’s okay to say ” You know what, this is not worth me getting all build up and getting mad for” and you are right.
Do not sweat the small things, let it be and breathe in and out. kids will be kids, they will sometimes make a mess, they will sometimes refuse to eat or even sleep. It happens, you just have to not let it get to you and know that they will eventually eat because they can’t starve to death, they will fall asleep maybe 10 minutes pass their nap time but they will. You just have to take some situations lightly and not stress it.
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7.Practice gratitude
Want to stop complaining about your life? Practice more gratitude.
It’s that simple, the more you complain, focus on the negative the more of it you are going to bring into your life.
Everyday I write on my journal 5 things that I’m grateful for.
In the mornings I Thank God for the day right before I get up from my bed.
Small positive changes in your day will help you feel better, blessed and thankful for the things that you have, are doing and will do.
8.Have a hobby
One way to ditch the stay at home burnout is to have a hobby. This will help you feel like you have purpose in your life other than being a mom and wife. Having a hobby that you can look forward to everyday will help you feel better and happier as a mom. I actually started this blog as a hobby because I wanted something that was for me and now it brings home income!
9.Get up and get dressed
One thing that i learned as a stay at home mom is that you can’t let yourself go. Just because you are home for the most part of your day, does not mean you can’t look good to feel good. Getting up and doing your makeup, getting dressed and doing your hair feels good. It will help you feel more productive and beautiful.
10. Focus on the good not the bad
As humans it’s normal to always look for the bad, the wrong, the mistakes etc.
when people are too happy we automatically think “What’s wrong with her”, lol. Isn;’t it true?
But I want you to be that person that other people say “she’s always happy, I don’t know how she does it”
You are that mom, okay
But you have to instill a habit of focusing on the good of everyday.
Celebrating yourself more and acknowledging what went good during the day.
Mama, if you’re thinking “I’ve been this way for too long, no way I am going to change”
That thought right there is what’s keeping you from changing…
You can change right now
It’s a choice that you make
A commitment to yourself
A commitment to your partner and kids
A commitment to your new life
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These are the 5 changes that I’ve made to be a happier stay at home mom. You know what? It works for me and I hope it truly works for you too. These changes are easy to apply and will help you tremendously in your daily routine and life.
Let me know which of the changes are you planning to make and also what changes have you made to be a happier stay at home mom?
