Hey mama, I see you. You just had a baby, things are a little stressful and overwhelming. But want to take a break and go out on a date night for the first time in years it seems. But you’re afraid of leaving your baby with someone else.
You’re a new mom, you’re suppose to want to be with your baby all of the time. How dare you want a break right? I mean I think these are thoughts of every new mom out there, that was my thought as well.
You’re probably thinking that no one else can take care of your baby the way you can. Not even your parents!
Learning to trust others with your baby feels hard for you, you;’re scared, you feel guilty and you just can’t seem to bring yourself to that
Even if you want to, even if you can use a break right now and even if your relationships needs it.
I will help you trust others with your baby so that you can feel confident and ease your worries.
You deserve to have a break as a new mom taking care of a newborn.
You shouldn’t feel guilty or bad about it
Learn to trust and let go, you’re going to feel so much better!
5 things you can do right now to trust others with your baby
1.Manage your thoughts
Being aware of your thoughts is crucial in trusting others with your baby, specially as a new mom. You may be thinking “I’m the only one who can take care of my baby the best way” “what if my baby needs me?” “They don’t know what they’re doing or don’t know how I do things”. These thoughts are keeping you from fully trusting people with your baby. And making you feel guilty and feel anxious about leaving your baby with anyone but yourself.
so here’s what to do. Just manage your thoughts. instead of thinking the worst case scenario, start thinking about how amazing it is to get help. How super nice and helpful the person taking care of your baby is. And how much you TRUST THEM. Believe positive thoughts about yourself as a mom and about the people taking care of your baby.
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Okay mama,I’m going to be honest here. One of the reasons you do not trust others with your baby is because you do not trust yourself. You are not trusting yourself in leaving your baby with someone else. Because “what if something bad happens, then it will be my fault”. So your negative thoughts take over, you start doubting your decisions and then you don’t even get the help.
In order to feel at ease in letting others take care of your baby, you have to have trust in your decision. Trust in yourself and trust that you are doing the right thing. You are a great mother and so your decision is the right one.
3.Learn to trust others
Most new moms do not trust others with their baby because they expect the other person to do the exact same thing as they do with their baby. Those expectations need to be dropped. Yes, of course you can give them instructions and schedule for your baby. But trust them in the fact they love and will take care of your baby the best way they can. Loose some expectations and you will be just fine.
4. Be prepared
In order for you to trust others with your baby and feel at ease, be prepared. Have a list of things it’s important for you to share with the person taking care of your baby. You can have boundaries around the things you are allowing the person to do or not do with your baby. For example, you feel more comfortable if they don’t take the baby out without you or you rather take your baby a bath then them and so you tell them. Things like this will help you feel good, have control and also trust others with your baby.
Be prepared by having everything your baby needs within reach if the person is coming over to your house. Or if you are taking your baby to the person’s house, make sure you have diapers, wipes, baby’s bottles, formula, thermometer, blankets, bibs etc. You can also have a baby camera that you can set up in your house to build trust with your babysitter.
5. Enjoy the help
Sometimes you just have to let go and trust. Enjoy the help because it’s awesome and it feels good. You need it and so making the best of it always help. Whether you’re going back to work, running errands or taking the night to reconnect with your spouse. You deserve to feel peaceful and confident about the person taking care of your baby. Enjoy the help mama 🙂
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I hope you found these tips helpful. I know it can be hard to trust others with your baby. But sometimes it’s necessary to leave your baby at the care of someone that you trust. It’s okay to feel anxious and nervous about it. But it’s also safe to trust others with your baby.