Is a struggle to be a gentle mother to your kids when most of the time you’re having to repeat yourself 100 times for them to listen to you. When you’re breaking up fights between them and you stumble on a toy that you have said to pick up.
Life as a mother is very demanding, you have a lot on your plate and not to mention you carry most of load of being a parent. You’re either working all day or a stay at home mom busy at home. You’re feeling burnout out and resentful because everything falls on you!
Now you find yourself yelling constantly at your kids, losing your patience and wanting to scream because life is too much. But you’re here because you want to do better. You want things to change and you want to be a more gentle mother to your kids.
That’s a celebration on it’s own, just the fact that you want to change and be a better mom. Being a gentle mom is not as hard as you may think it is.
I am sharing with you just 3 simple tips that you can start doing today to be more gentle, patient and loving mother. Because that’s why you became a mom right? To enjoy your kids, your family and your life…
I’m going to help you do just that! Become a gentle parent the easy way.
3 simple steps to be a more gentle mother to your kids
1. Practice self awareness
One of the things that I teach my clients through my 1:1 life coaching program is to practice self awareness. Self awareness in understanding why you feel, react and think the way that you do. Why is this important? Because now that you are aware, you can change the things that you don’t like or doesn’t serve you.
If you want to be a calm mom who is more gentle with her children, being aware of your stress and anger triggers. Will help you know that your kids or husband are not the problem. Is things throughout the day or your negative thoughts are causing you to react in a negative way.
You can change that by being more aware and asking yourself questions like
- Why am I so angry? what am I angry at?
- Why am I feeling so stressed? Do I need help?
2. Ask yourself this question
The most powerful question you can ask yourself each day is “What do I need right now?”
Meaning what do you need in this very moment to feel more peace, calm and patient? is it taking a break? asking for help? Sending your kids to watch t.v while you breathe for 10 mins? What do you need right now that will help you be a more gentle parent?
So powerful, often times we don’t even have time to ask ourselves what do we need, but it’s important to also acknowledge your needs so that you can yell less, stress less and ditch the mom guilt.
Being a gentle mom is all about how you speak to yourself, how you take care of yourself and what you believe about yourself. Speak kind and motivating words to yourself each day, you’re doing great!
3.Practice self care
One of the best ways you can be more gentle, calm and happy mom is to take care of yourself and practice self care. We don’t really think that taking care of ourselves and doing things that we love and makes us happy is the answer to our motherhood struggles.
But it is! When you’re too busy filling everyone else’s cup, taking care of everyone and making sure the house is intact. But you forget about yourself. How do you feel by the end of the day? heavy? tired? overwhelmed? resentful?
You can easily eliminate these negative things once you start prioritizing yourself more. Treating yourself with love and kindness and doing things that brings you joy!
I know these tips are not the average parenting tips you thought you were going to get. But that’s the point! That in order to be a gentle mother to your kids, you really have to start within. With you mama!
Now, if you’re ready for 1:1 support and want to work with me in my life coaching program for moms. Let’s go! I help moms make powerful shifts in their lives so that they can parent with love and ease and be the mom and wife that they want to be.