Do you sometimes feel sorry for yourself?
Like this feeling of you’re not doing anything with your life
Or think things never go your way
And everything happens to you and not for you
Self pity is your go to feeling when things don’t go your way
You see other moms enjoying their kids, having their shit together and looking good all of the time
And you just feel like you’re missing the secret ingredient
But girl, let me tell you that
Feeling sorry for yourself is a waste of your time
You are keeping yourself stuck where you are and not moving forward to where you want to be
You may like the attention of other people, the pity of other people, but those people will eventually get tired of your negativity and may not even want to be around you
And feeling sorry for yourself and having self pity will only make you feel worse about yourself
Which would then make you feel like a victim and a victim doesn’t move forward in her life, she stays stuck in the past
But what if you start to see yourself the way God sees you, how would that change ?
- You will start to see yourself as who you are
- You start to feel better about yourself
- You will start to increase your confidence
- You will start to see the good in your life not the bad
Becoming the best version of you as a mom, you have to learn how to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start feeling better. Loving your life as is! Knowing that you’re a great mother and wife and that you are worthy of joy and love.
Your life as a mom is going to change for the better.
6 steps to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start feeling better
1.Start to believe that you are the author of your own life
Which means you get to create the life that you really want to have right now. Taking control of your life and deciding how you want to feel, how you want to live your life and what things you want to experience more of. Will help you start to change your life. You are the main character of your story, you get to write what happens. Now you are not feeling sorry for yourself because you know that you are ion control of your life.
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This will help you focus on all the good things that are happening in your life and the good things that you have in your life that maybe you once prayed for and now you have it. When you’re practicing gratitude, you are feeling good and happy about all the things in your life. Now you don’t feel sad or self pity because you’re focusing on the things that you don’t have, instead you are focusing on the positive, the good and you’re heart is full of gratitude.
3.Journal your feelings
Get in tune with your emotions and understand, why is it that you feel sorry for yourself and how can you change that immediately. It’s okay to admit that you don’t feel good about yourself in this very moment. You are human. So deal with the feeling and don’t brush it off because it will come back eventually. Journaling will help you release your feelings, find patterns that you want to stop doing and feel great again! This guided journal is going to help you!
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4. Start celebrating your accomplishments
Start celebrating those small wins in your day to day life. We are busy humans and we for the most part do not stop and smell the roses. Meaning, we don’t live in the present moment. We are either thinking about the past or worrying about the future. Take some time today and fully be present and celebrate your everyday small wins. What did you do right today? What went well today? Lean into positivity, lean into being good to yourself and love who you are and what you have accomplished.
5.Stop comparing yourself to other moms
How many times have we compared ourselves to other moms and think they hold the secret sauce to motherhood? We feel incompetent, we feel bad, we feel like failures. Comparing yourself to other people will only bring out the worst in you. Because you start to either feel jealous of that person or turn around and be hard on yourself. Start focusing on your life. What it is that you want to achieve? How do you want to feel every day? Who you need to become to be that woman and mom?
How can you love and accept yourself, life and experiences more?
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6.Pray for guidance
I love to start my days reading the bible, praying and reading devotionals. It just makes me feel calm, in peace and I start the day on a positive note. I love it! Immerse yourself in positivity and surround yourself with people that want to see you win. Pray for the things that you want, pray for the things that you have, pray for guidance and support. What helps you feel calm and in peace? Do more of that!